January 18, 2007

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Mirroring energy

One of the good things about this long-distance relationship with
Simon is that I get to practice mirroring. I might be fully awake and
bursting with stories to tell, but that would be cruel sensory
overload for someone who’s just waking up or about to go to sleep. So
I rein myself in and focus instead on matching his energy level. I
talk slowly when he talks slowly, and excitedly when he’s also
excited. Then I can gradually shift to other energy levels if I want
to, listening to make sure we’re still in sync. I love doing that
because I know how wonderful it feels when I’m mirrored, too. I
sometimes forget and get carried away, but I’m getting better at
remembering! =)

You should try it, if you don’t already do that. When you’re spending
time with someone, figure out what their energy state is, and match it
before changing. It doesn’t have to be an exact match. Also, no
one-upping allowed! But when you start paying attention to the flows
of tone and energy in a conversation, you’ll find that it’s just so
fascinating…

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An examined life…

… feels like it’s worth living.

I write a lot. That’s because letting a day pass without finding
*something* noteworthy about it makes me wonder if I really lived that
day. I love looking for something I learned that day. Writing it down
forces me to figure it out a little more and makes it easier for me to
remember it. It’s like regularly asking: what’s the difference between
me of yesterday and me of today?

I don’t expect anyone to keep up with my blog, although my mom and my
friends make valiant efforts to do so. Heck, I don’t expect *myself*
to keep up with my blog, and I hardly review blog entries except for
reports. But writing is good for me, so I do it. If you like reading
about my adventures and smiling at all these things I’m discovering
for the first (or second or third) time, feel free to read on… =)

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Grazing in the bookstore

I’m starting to feel a little strange in Powerbooks. Maybe it’s visual
overload from of “SALE” signs everyone. Maybe it’s mental fatigue from
browsing through all these books that are starting to sound alike. I
read.. mm… maybe five, six books today? Browsed through them,
really, looking for just a few ideas to keep. I gained two important
insights today, though.

From “Creating Rainmakers”: Great rainmakers start growing their
network early. Because the number of possible connections increases
rapidly with every new connection, people with large networks benefit
*much* more than people with small networks. I knew this from personal
experience and observation, but it was great reading about it.
Something I read in another book or I picked up on my own: the more
people you know and the more you know about them, the more you can
leverage the things that you learn and the experiences you have.
(Duh.) But it’s true; whenever I pick up a sales insight, I use it as
a great excuse to ping a few people.

From “Finance on a Beermat”: Small businesses *really* need
accounting. Why? Because even if you’re funding it yourself, you’re
not pouring money down a sink. You should keep track of how much the
business owes you, so that you can tell the difference between revenue
and profit. At the end of the day, your books need to balance. I
hadn’t really thought about that before and I suspect that most
entrepreneurs just pour cash into their businesses without keeping
track of things, but maybe that’s something that separates successful
serial entrepreneurs from frustrated ones…

Hmm…

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Sometimes the universe gives you a sign…

… and sometimes it brings out the pompoms and cheers you along the
way!

Winston Damarillo thanked me earlier for referring someone to him. His
Philippine-based software development outsourcing company might land a
deal with a company in Brunei, and all because people comment on this
personal blog of mine. Yesterday, my research supervisor asked me to
recommend open source telephony experts. I happily recommended Simon
Rowland and Simon Ditner, of course. And the day before that, my mom
asked me how Simon Rowland ended up outsourcing some development to
the Philippines, so I told her the story of how I set up the
relationship behind the scenes…

It’s as if the universe is giving me a sign, and the sign is “THIS
WAY!” in huge, flashing neon lights.

If all this could happen by chance, can you imagine how dangerous I’d
be with a Blackberry and a plan? ;)

I *love* it. I care very much about the people I know, and I *love*
helping them succeed. And I care very much about getting to know more
people and letting the network effects benefit everyone…

I want to do this. I want to finish that master’s already and try this
out.

Happy girl!

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