Bonnie Jacobson, PhD., with Alexia Paul
2010 Adams Media, Avon, Massachusetts
ISBN 13: 978-1-60550-625-8
The book consists of short chapters that explore common conflicts and positive approaches in committed relationships. Each chapter includes one or two case studies, ways to recognize the conflict, and tips for resolving the conflict. This book is a good read for couples who are beginning to find themselves ensnared in repeating conflict patterns because they can identify and get tips for their situation. Couples who are starting out may also find it useful as a way to recognize potential conflicts before they become established.
Responsive Reactive Good judgment Critical judgment Expressing your true self Conforming to a role Autonomy Isolation Surrender Submission Establishing space Neglect Patience Passivity Benign boundaries Emotional tyranny Awareness of limits Emotional recklessness Embracing change Preserving the status quo
Taking responsibility Blame Needs Wants Detach Withdraw Speaking up Silence Giving the benefit of the doubt Making assumptions Intimate listening Hearing Influence Control Constructive criticism Destructive criticism
- Personal power
Deciding Craving Fighting fair Fighting unfair Support Protection Forgiving Forgetting Good selfish Bad selfish Family loyalty Self-interest Joy Happiness