November 2, 2010

Book: Choose to be happily married: How everyday decisions can lead to lasting love

November 2, 2010 - Categories: book, love, reading

Bonnie Jacobson, PhD., with Alexia Paul
2010 Adams Media, Avon, Massachusetts
ISBN 13: 978-1-60550-625-8

The book consists of short chapters that explore common conflicts and positive approaches in committed relationships. Each chapter includes one or two case studies, ways to recognize the conflict, and tips for resolving the conflict. This book is a good read for couples who are beginning to find themselves ensnared in repeating conflict patterns because they can identify and get tips for their situation. Couples who are starting out may also find it useful as a way to recognize potential conflicts before they become established.

  • Flexibility
    ResponsiveReactive
    Good judgmentCritical judgment
    Expressing your true selfConforming to a role
    AutonomyIsolation
    SurrenderSubmission
    Establishing spaceNeglect
    PatiencePassivity
    Benign boundariesEmotional tyranny
    Awareness of limitsEmotional recklessness
    Embracing changePreserving the status quo
  • Communication
    Taking responsibilityBlame
    NeedsWants
    DetachWithdraw
    Speaking upSilence
    Giving the benefit of the doubtMaking assumptions
    Intimate listeningHearing
    InfluenceControl
    Constructive criticismDestructive criticism
  • Personal power
    DecidingCraving
    Fighting fairFighting unfair
    SupportProtection
    ForgivingForgetting
    Good selfishBad selfish
    Family loyaltySelf-interest
    JoyHappiness