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Monthly review: December 2016

After enjoying lots of time with old friends and family, we flew back to Toronto and settled into our household routines. The flights back were a bit more comfortable, thanks to the timing and the rest areas at the Manila and Incheon airports. It took A- and I a few weeks to get over jet lag, since I mostly went by her cues. Short days and cold weather made it harder to reset her circadian rhythm, but we eventually synced up with W-. We even got back into the habit of walking again, once we were mostly lined up with daylight.

One of the unexpected benefits of going on this trip was the realization that congee and bibimbap can be part of our everyday routines, thanks to inexpensive and easily-cooked ingredients. I just need to marinate ground beef or pork in soy sauce, brown it, and keep it in the fridge, and gradually build up a supply of banchan when there’s time. Yum yum yum. W- picked up a container of gochujang, and we’ve been making good progress through it too.

Since we lost A-‘s painted shell, I took A- to be fitted for a clear conformer. This one kept popping out, though – sometimes twice a day, sometimes even when she wasn’t touching it. Eventually we lost it somewhere in the house, which was very mystifying. I’ll be taking her for another one in January. I hope this one fits better, or else I might have to tweak the budget a bit.

On the plus side, A- has gotten the hang of clapping. It’s awesome. She claps for herself, she claps for us, she claps when she wakes up and it’s another nice day… :) She’s also gotten a lot of practice in putting things on top of other things/cats/parents. She likes putting things into and taking things out of baskets, which makes laundry time more interesting. She’s getting more confident about crawling even around the corner and out of sight, and she’s often keen to walk with our help.

W- created a play area in the living room, and we’ve been spending a lot of time in it. New lights and more floor space really changed the feel of the room. We also put up elephant stickers in A-‘s room, which feels a lot more like a nursery now. (W- oiled the hinges, too, so it’s easier to go in and out without worrying about waking her up.)

A- continues to follow the 15th percentile curve in terms of weight. She got the second half of the flu shot, so she’ll probably be okay this season.

We went to Brantford for W-‘s family’s Christmas thing. A- was okay with the long car ride, although we needed to make one stop on the way there so that she could nurse. That was the day we lost her clear conformer, too, so we were a little frazzled. She mostly stayed close to us, although she warmed up enough to explore the gifts and hang out with family.

I did a little bit of consulting, mostly just maintenance. I also did some coding and troubleshooting for my blog. It was a little embarrassing to not have noticed the broken paragraphs for so long, but oh well!

Lots of writing on my phone – the new workflow with Google Tasks seems to be working out well. We’ll see how next month goes!

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Category Nov Dec Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
Business – Build 0.2 0.7 0.5 1.2 0.8
Discretionary – Play 1.7 2.6 0.9 4.4 1.5
Unpaid work 47.6 43.7 -3.9 75.7 -6.5
Unpaid work – Childcare 37.0 36.3 -0.6 63.0 -1.1
Discretionary – Social 0.3 0.2 -0.1 0.3 -0.2
Discretionary – Family 6.3 2.1 -4.1 3.7 -7.0
Sleep 32.0 35.3 3.4 61.2 5.6
Business – Connect 0.4 0.2 -0.2 0.3 -0.3
Business – Earn 0.6 0.3 -0.3 0.6 -0.5
Discretionary – Productive 2.8 3.1 0.3 5.3 0.5
Personal 8.3 8.1 -0.3 14.0 -0.4

Monthly review: November 2016

A- has gotten so much better at controlling her hands: gently patting the cat, grasping food with her thumb and index finger, taking things out of containers and putting them back in… She laid claim to one of the sets of Duplo that we were going to give to her cousins, and had lots of fun exploring the different shapes. She’s been gradually shifting to using her fingers instead of her mouth, although the occasional thing still gets tasted, of course.

A- has also been working on her gross motor skills, getting the hang of creeping around everywhere on her hands and knees (so much more efficient than crawling on her tummy!), and even pulling herself up to stand with our help. She’s more expressively vocal now, babbling with different intonations based on her mood. She likes staying close to me or to W-, but she’s happy to spend time with other people once she has warmed up to them. She met the rest of my family on our trip to the Philippines – yay! She tried out many new foods, and seems to be a fan of sour tastes and chunkier textures. She’s an awesome 9-month-old!

A-‘s cardiologist said that the hole in her heart continues to get better, but they still need to monitor the muscle bundle developing in her right ventricle to see if they need to operate on it. We’ll follow up with another exam in February.

A-‘s head was getting too big for her old prosthetic eye, which kept popping out. Eventually it popped out in a crowded place where we couldn’t find it even after searching multiple times. Oh well, we knew something like that would happen eventually – that’s why we’d set aside an oops fund! We’ll try replacing it with a less-expensive clear conformer first, and we’ll wait until she’s eligible for funding for another painted prosthetic eye.

As for us, the first half of the month was about preparing for the trip, and the second half was about enjoying it. The trip worked out beautifully – like a staycation, but with family and friends I hadn’t seen in years. We cooked, ate, hung out, and took care of things – some bank-related stuff, and my parents’ Canadian visa application too. There’s more paperwork to be done, of course, but at least we got started.

I managed to squeeze in a bit of coding: turning over the add-on I’d been working on, and doing some data scraping for a friend. Didn’t get much writing or coding done while we were away, of course, but that’s all cool.

Life is good.

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Time tracking slightly messed up by trip. Personal time way down, travel/family time way up, as expected. Sleep surprisingly the same – actually, slight increase, because I didn’t track sleep well during the flight. Hmm…

Category Last month % This month % Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
Unpaid work 42.8 47.6 4.8 77.4 8.0
Discretionary – Family 1.9 6.3 4.4 10.2 7.4
Unpaid work – Childcare 35.1 37.0 1.8 60.2 3.1
Discretionary – Play 0.8 1.7 0.9 2.7 1.5
Business – Connect 0.0 0.4 0.3 0.6 0.5
Business – Build 0.1 0.2 0.0 0.3 0.1
Sleep 31.9 32.0 0.0 52.0 0.0
Discretionary – Productive 3.1 2.8 -0.4 4.5 -0.6
Business – Earn 2.8 0.6 -2.2 1.0 -3.6
Discretionary – Social 3.4 0.3 -3.2 0.5 -5.3
Personal 13.1 8.3 -4.7 13.6 -7.9

Monthly review: October 2016

It’s delightful watching A- figure out movement. She’s gotten more intentional with her hands: playing peek-a-boo by holding something up near her head, plucking the strings of my ukulele, exploring leaves (and trying to eat them!), grabbing the finger food that she likes.She’s a pretty active crawler now, and she can get quite fast when she’s going for the cats. She’s also been working on creeping, getting her knees under her and lifting her tummy off the ground. She mostly still inchworms – lifts herself up, drops down to crawl one span, and then lifts herself up again – but she has almost figured out creeping all the way.

There’s plenty of room for her to crawl around now that W- has finished J-‘s closet. We moved J-‘s stuff back in her room, and now A- has floor and closet space again! I organized A-‘s clothes and toys by type, and the system has been holding up well so far.

We’ve been spending time outdoors to take advantage of the last few warm and sunny days of the year. The backyard has been a great place to explore the tastes and textures of the herbs in our garden. We’ve also walked to quite a few parks and libraries close by. The socks don’t quite cover her legs when her pants ride up, so I made her a pair of leg warmers and a hat from a sweater. We lost one of the leg warmers already, but that’s okay, I’ll just have to make more. Gotta figure out cool weather walking gear!

A-‘s weight gain has slowed down a bit, but it’s still within normal range, so maybe last month’s rapid gains were part of a catch-up growth spurt. The pediatrician isn’t worried, so neither are we.

Probably due to all that growth, A-‘s prosthetic eye has been popping out more often. We’ll see the ocularist after our trip. In the meantime, we’ll just have to deal. She gets upset when we restrain her to put it back in, but recovers okay after W- manages to reinsert the shell. I still worry from time to time that we might traumatize her or cause her to distrust us, but oh well, this is our life.

Lots of sleep disruption too, but that’s also pretty normal for this age. We go to bed late and wake up late, but there’s still plenty of time in the afternoon for social stuff. I helped out Jen and Ewan, met Justin and Joy, spent Thanksgiving with W-‘s family, checked out meetups for Junction parents and Toronto parent educators, finished the Make the Connection program, picked up lots of vegetables because of the Peer Nutrition program (including five bunches of kale!), and checked out various baby activities. I made a pirate hat and vest for A- and I cobbled together a quick pirate costume for myself based on stuff in my closet and a DIY felt eyepatch, and we handed out Halloween candy.

Big step: I finally made it out to the dentist after two years of being away! I took the opportunity to find a new dentist, too, one who had good reviews for child dental care as well. W- took care of A- while I went for cleaning and a new patient exam. I needed two fillings, which is not a bad result for all that time. Level up!

Level up in my consulting project, too. Got past a couple of technical roadblocks with some help, and now the add-on should be ready for other people to tinker with it.

Busy month. W-‘s been in constant motion, too: working on the porch, upgrading the workshop, investing in tools and skills… Whee!

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Occasionally remembered to track stuff as more specific categories instead of childcare (ex: breakfasts, cooking), even if I had A- with me. Also managed to fit in a little time for consulting, yay!

Category Last month % This month % Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
Personal 11.3 13.1 1.7 22.7 2.9
Discretionary – Social 2.2 3.4 1.3 6.0 2.2
Business – Earn 1.6 2.8 1.2 4.8 1.9
Discretionary – Family 1.1 1.9 0.8 3.3 1.3
Discretionary – Play 0.9 0.8 -0.1 1.4 -0.2
Business – Connect 0.2 0.0 -0.1 0.1 -0.2
Business – Build 0.4 0.1 -0.2 0.2 -0.4
Unpaid work 43.3 42.8 -0.5 74.3 -0.8
Discretionary – Productive 4.5 3.1 -1.3 5.4 -2.2
Sleep 34.6 31.9 -2.7 55.4 -4.5
Unpaid work – Childcare 38.1 35.1 -2.9 61.0 -4.9

Monthly review: September 2016

A- has gotten a lot more active. She’s figured out how to roll both ways both directions, and can now roll over and over and over. Walls confused her for a bit, but she seems to have gotten the hang of them now – or at least she doesn’t keep rolling into them, then away a little, then back into them, then away, then back… She can also crawl short distances and sit or play mostly independently for a good number of minutes. She likes it when I play peek-a-boo, and she can whisk a cloth away to reveal me or a toy I’ve hidden. She’s been expanding her vocabulary, too: lip smacking, slobbery kisses, and more intonation. She’s definitely vocal about her appreciation of bubbles and other fine things.

A- has really taken to self-feeding in her high chair. A month of solid weight gains helped her make it past the 5th and 10th percentile curves, and she looks like she’ll be past the 15th percentile curve soon. Kamut puffs and Toodle-Os let her work on her pincer grip, and she tends to prefer bits of our meals more than baby cereals or purées. I’ve been applying what I learned in the nutrition workshop, making an effort to get in more iron for her and more calcium for me. She’s been settling into somewhat of a routine when it comes to eating, nursing, and sleeping (having mostly gotten the hang of longer naps, of which she usually has two). Between that and her increasing capacity for entertaining herself, I’ve actually been able to get back into cooking and other household chores. Whee!

The caseworker from the Canadian National Institute for the Blind assessed A-‘s vision and capabilities with the help of blinking toys, small objects, and a musical triangle. It was fascinating to watch her probe A-‘s field of vision, observation, and tracking. So far, it seems A-‘s doing perfectly well with one eye. The caseworker will close our file for now, but we can get in touch with CNIB if A- needs more help when she’s mobile. In other news, the cardiologist said A-‘s okay to travel, so all systems go. Yay!

TD lost our forms, so we redid the paperwork for A-‘s RESP. Added our first investment! In other education-related news, J- started university, and seems to be enjoying her program. They’re both off to a good start.

I switched from a digital index card workflow back to a paper one in order to accommodate changing baby-proofing needs (no more laptop chargers beside the bed, now that she’s crawling and rolling!) and prepare for our upcoming trip. It’s working surprisingly well. I draw after A-‘s asleep, or if she’s focused on playing on her own. The index cards are easy to carry to another room if I want to spend more time with W-. I can draw with my headlamp on, and I’m not as tempted to stay up late doing other things on my computer. ClearScanner on my phone takes care of deskewing and cleaning up images, and my Emacs functions for renaming and organizing images were easy to tweak for the new filenames and formats. I should probably think about colour at some point, but that can come later.

I’ve also been tweaking what I can do on my phone during nursing sessions. I’ve been trying out Orgzly for writing and a few Org-related things. Using Connectbot to SSH to my server has come in handy, too. I upgraded my server thanks to Linode’s anniversary promo, and I’m still thinking of more things I can do with the extra RAM.

Speaking of computer stuff – my fiscal year end is here, so I spent a little time reconciling my bank statements and getting things ready for taxes. I won’t be able to finalize the numbers until December or so, but it’s always nice to have an idea of how things will shape up. My notes from last year have been helpful, and I’ve been filling in more notes as needed. Hooray for Org Mode outlines and to-dos! It’s been a surprisingly good year, even with pregnancy and becoming the primary caregiver for an infant. My clients are super-flexible, and I’ve managed to get stuff done. Whee!

Social things this month: attended the midwives’ picnic and caught up with a few folks from the prenatal class we attended, started attending the Make the Connection program and the peer nutrition support site, and bartered the glass bottles A- barely used for two large bags of baby clothes. Moved to the Friday sessions at our neighbourhood early years centre, too.

W- has been busy with J-‘s closet reno and all the little things that popped up along the way, including getting the carpet professionally stretched in order to eliminate bumps and bring it up to the wardrobe. We moved all the upstairs stuff around so that all the carpet there could get fixed. W- built custom shelving, too. Neat.

Starting to get the hang of this, I think!

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Category Period 1 % Period 2 % Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
Business – Build 0.1 0.4 0.3 0.6 0.4
Discretionary – Play 0.5 0.9 0.5 1.5 0.8
Unpaid work 42.5 43.3 0.8 70.4 1.4
Unpaid work – Childcare 36.9 38.1 1.1 61.9 1.9
Discretionary – Social 2.5 2.2 -0.3 3.5 -0.5
Discretionary – Family 2.0 1.1 -0.9 1.8 -1.5
Sleep 34.3 34.6 0.3 56.3 0.5
Business – Connect 0.0 0.2 0.1 0.3 0.2
Business – Earn 1.3 1.6 0.4 2.6 0.6
Discretionary – Productive 4.6 4.5 -0.1 7.3 -0.2
Personal 12.4 11.3 -1.1 18.4 -1.8

Monthly review: August 2016

It took me a while to write this monthly review. September’s practically done. This tells me I need to tweak my post-A-bedtime routines a little, but that’s okay.

It’s been an eventful year, for sure. Plenty of stuff for my annual review. I’m sure it will make more sense later on. At the moment, I’m just trying to capture enough hooks to let me get back into the memories. =)

After several consultations with dietitians (both public and private), upgrading to a high chair, and plenty of self-feeding, A- has been gaining weight at a steady clip. Whew! I added a detailed feeding log and more visualizations to our tracker, of course. Data data data.

There’s only a slight downside to A’s improved growth curve. It turns out that I’ve been lifting her incorrectly, and the extra weight has led to de Quervain’s tenosynovitis in my left hand. No big deal. I’ve modified my lifting technique, I’m careful not to put too much stress on my thumb, and I sometimes use an inexpensive over-the-counter brace. Since I can’t avoid using that hand, it probably won’t go away until we’re done breastfeeding or A- is more independent, but maybe I can avoid making it worse.

Since A- has been growing well, I bought a second-hand Manduca. That’s become our go-to carrier. The Manduca doesn’t require an insert for small babies, so I was able to use it with A- right away. It feels more secure than the ring sling. I’d like to learn how to use the mei tai too.

We booked our flights home, yay! It’ll be our first time traveling with A-, and it’s going to be a loooong flight. Hoping that Korean Air lives up to its reputation for family-friendliness.

With an average of two hours a week of consulting, I managed to fill the pipeline, yay! I’ve volunteered to help them with something time-sensitive, so I’ll be busy for the next few months. A- is still top priority, of course.

Lots of social things, too. Dinner with W-‘s family, park time with Rachael and G-, a nice walk with Jen, Ewan, and E-, and the final classes for Peer Nutrition. Also, J- had her friends over, and they made pesto from the garden basil. And they cleaned up. Wow. W- and I sat on the deck and marvelled.

Life is good.

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Category Last month % This month % Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
Unpaid work – Childcare 34.3 36.9 2.6 62.0 4.3
Unpaid work 40.2 42.5 2.2 71.3 3.7
Discretionary – Social 1.5 2.5 0.9 4.1 1.6
Discretionary – Family 1.2 2.0 0.8 3.3 1.3
Discretionary – Play 0.5 0.5 -0.1 0.8 -0.1
Business – Build 0.2 0.1 -0.1 0.2 -0.2
Business – Connect 0.1 0.0 -0.1 0.0 -0.2
Business – Earn 1.4 1.3 -0.2 2.1 -0.3
Discretionary – Productive 4.8 4.6 -0.2 7.7 -0.4
Personal 13.1 12.4 -0.7 20.8 -1.2
Sleep 36.8 34.3 -2.5 57.6 -4.1

Monthly review: July 2016

(Finally, a little time to catch up on my writing! =) )

Ah, July. Many of the medical uncertainties we’d been working on over the past few months were wrapped up, at least for now. A- got her first artificial eye – a scleral shell that will gradually be enlarged to help her skull grow symmetrically. The anomalous finding on her abdominal ultrasound turned out to be a benign hemangioma according to the MRI. Cardiology at Sick Kids got a closer look at her ventricular septal defect through an echocardiogram under sedation, and they’ll continue to monitor it along with our first cardiologist. It feels a little strange to have medical appointments scheduled months out instead of practically every week, and to not get a referral to yet another department, yet another section of the Hospital for Sick Children. In the five months that A-‘s been alive, there had been five weeks free of medical appointments, and even those were under the shadow of the next thing to research, plan for, and accept. It’s starting to feel like we have a bit of a handle on things.

We’re so lucky that parental leave was an option for W-. It allowed us to take shifts in consoling A- when the procedures upset her. W- made delicious dinners: pesto and bun from the summery abundance of our planter boxes, juicy rotisserie chicken when it was too hot to cook indoors, and even more yummy things I didn’t have the attention span to do. He even got into the habit of ironing and pre-folding the large flannel squares that we use as A-‘s diapers. That way, she wouldn’t be bothered by any doubled-up hems. Lucky girl, and lucky me.

I reacquired Philippine citizenship and included A-, so she has that option. I hope I don’t end up regretting the paperwork. Sometimes dual citizenship is helpful, and sometimes it makes things trickier. Anyway, might as well.

Lots of social stuff, too. Tita Gay and Tita Myra drove up from the US to meet A-, and it was great to catch up with them. I’ve been going to a peer nutrition program conducted in Tagalog in order to learn more about feeding the baby and also to find out about Filipino community resources. We met another family with a baby who has left-eye microphthalmia, and we swapped notes. Slowly making new parent friends!

A- has gotten much better at rolling, and she likes spending time on her tummy. She can reach her toys from the rocker’s reclined position. She loves playing with water from the hose or streaming down from a cup with holes. We’ve been introducing her to lots of different kinds of food, and she’s gotten quite good at putting things into her mouth. Growing growing growing!

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Category Period 1 % Period 2 % Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
Business – Build 0.3 0.2 -0.0 0.4 -0.0
Discretionary – Play 1.0 0.5 -0.5 0.9 -0.8
Unpaid work 41.6 40.2 -1.3 69.9 -2.3
Unpaid work – Childcare 34.0 34.3 0.4 59.6 0.6
Discretionary – Social 2.3 1.5 -0.7 2.7 -1.2
Discretionary – Family 1.4 1.2 -0.2 2.1 -0.3
Sleep 33.4 36.8 3.4 63.8 5.7
Business – Connect 0.1 0.1 -0.0 0.2 -0.0
Business – Earn 2.4 1.4 -1.0 2.5 -1.6
Discretionary – Productive 5.8 4.8 -1.0 8.3 -1.8
Personal 11.8 13.1 1.3 22.8 2.3