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Weekly review: Week ending September 28, 2018

  • Gross motor
    • A- rode her balance bike down to the playground, controlling the speed with her feet. She lost control midway down and had a small spill. I helped her back on the bike and she rode it down some more, a little more cautiously this time. (5.1.1 Balance)
    • A- figured out how to put her feet on the foot rests of her balance bike. (5.1.1 Balance)
  • Fine motor
    • A- practised using chopsticks to eat fish cake and noodles. She also used chopsticks to pick up a piece of shredded duck.
  • Language
    • A- read several books to herself. It was awesome.
    • A- was pretending to be M-. She asked me to paint his name on the easel pad in orange. She traced over it in brown paint, identifying each letter that she painted. We filled half a dozen sheets this way.
    • A- was curious about J-‘s room. She peeked in and said, “We should clean it up. It’s messy.”
    • “I use my loud voice to get attention.”
  • Art
    • A- enthusiastically walked to the art supply store. We bought four large bottles of tempera paint: orange, purple, blue, and brown. At home, I used Mason jars to set out orange, purple, and blue. This worked out much better than letting her squeeze the paint onto paper, and she accepted it probably because it’s the same process at “school.” The combination of colours reminded me of sunsets.
  • Sleep
    • A- was resisting sleep so much because she was overtired. W- and I both reached our limits, so he unplugged the lights.
    • A- resisted bedtime. W- checked in, helped her calm down by pretending to make banana muffins in bed, dressed her, and tucked her in. After he left, she fussed for about 5 minutes and then fell asleep. She had been awake for about 8 hours.
  • Household
    • A- turned the lights on and off by tapping the light switch with a roller.
  • Social
    • We made it to school after music class. A- played with the riding toys and the tunnel a little bit more. Another kid was having a hard time leaving, so Lesley tried asking her about the car they came in. Eventually singing worked: If You’re Happy And You Know It, Stomp Your Feet.
  • Pretend
    • We reenacted the put away video.
  • World
    • After seeing me get a book that I requested, A- wanted her own book from the shelf with elastics.
    • We followed the garbage truck around. The workers showed A- how the compactor worked.
  • Kaizen
    • W- and I talked about workloads and our coping plans when we’re both under heavy loads.
    • Instead of napping while A- napped, I tidied up, took out the litter, and mopped the kitchen floor. I still had the energy to help A- with bedtime. Rest might have helped with my cold more, but I didn’t feel sleepy, so it was good to get things done instead.
    • I used vinegar to clean the bathroom faucet. We should probably keep a spray bottle of vinegar solution in the bathroom….
    • I checked references for someone who might be able to help me. There were some concerns about punctuality and communication, so I’ll need to see if that’s less relevant for me or if I’d rather hold out for another candidate.
    • W- got into a staring contest with Leia just as she was about to poop on the floor, so she pooped in the litter box instead. I put a pictures and drawing of eyes to see whether that psychological experiment works on cats too.
    • I organized A-‘s drawers, putting away warm-weather clothes and bringing out cool-weather ones.
    • I moved the dust pan behind the bathroom trash can so that I can clean the bathroom while waiting for A-.
    • I experimented with using voice dictation to do my journal entries.
    • I experimented with putting a movie on my phone. It looks like I might be able to watch things in 5 minute increments.
  • Us
    • A- is getting better at waiting patiently when I want to do something. I set up a vet appointment for Leia, got Leia’s vet records and sent them along with my personal notes, called the pharmacy, and wrote down my thoughts.
    • I talked to W- about finding it hard to get outside help because I’m not sure what I want.

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Time

Category The other week Last week Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
A- 40.8 44.6 3.8 75.0 6.5
Unpaid work 7.5 8.8 1.3 14.8 2.2
Discretionary – Family 0.0 0.8 0.8 1.4 1.4
Discretionary – Play 0.3 0.9 0.6 1.5 1.0
Discretionary – Social 0.0 0.0 0.0 0.0 0.0
Business 1.1 0.5 -0.6 0.8 -1.0
Discretionary – Productive 1.9 1.2 -0.7 2.0 -1.2
Sleep 39.4 37.3 -2.1 62.7 -3.5
Personal 9.1 5.8 -3.3 9.8 -5.5

Weekly review: Week ending September 21, 2018

  • Gross motor
    • A- pushed her tricycle up the ramp, then gleefully rode it down backwards. She did the same with the tricycle at the drop-in centre, too, riding it down the hill a few times.
    • A- was able to lift her feet up for a few seconds while coasting on her balance bike. She was also a little more confident on slopes. She easily made it all the way to school, and she biked part of the way back before getting too sleepy. (5.1.1 Balance)
  • Fine motor
    • A- said, “Teach me how to write!” I suggested that she start with tracing lines and circles with her finger, and I also showed her how letters are made up of simpler shapes.
  • Sensory
    • At school, A- was fascinated by the water table and the sand table. She spent a lot of time pouring.
    • A- wanted to ride in her high chair while being pulled around using a long towel, so W- insisted that she wear a helmet.
  • Language
    • A- loves reassuring me that she’s prepared. “Don’t worry, I have a water bottle when you get thirsty.”
    • A- and another kid were riding cars in the school yard. The other kid bumped her. A- turned to me and said, “That wasn’t funny at all.”
    • A- didn’t want to go to school, which worked out because we were both a bit tired and sniffly. We stayed home and focused on letters instead. I made a chart of the letters she recognized and what words she associated with them.
  • Music
    • At music class, A- walked around to music. She liked the Wishy Washy song and shook the bells during instrument time. We ended with a fire drill.
  • Art
    • We tried sprinkling salt on glue trails as suggested by the Artful Parenting book, but the results were a little meh.
  • Self-care and independence
    • A- tied a scarf around her waist all by herself. (5.2.1 Dressing)
    • A- glugged lots of water from her small bottle, refilling it a number of times all by herself.
    • A- sat on the potty so long that her leg got numb. W- noticed her trying to stomp or shake out the strange feeling.
    • A- ate lots of crackers, cheese, and peaches during snack time. She kept asking for permission and serving herself with tongs.
    • A- really wanted a sippy cup, but I didn’t like any of the designs in store.
  • Eating
    • A- usually eats just my egg whites, but this time, A- wanted to try egg yolk. She rated it and declared, “I love egg yolk.” She also tried Japanese curry at dinner, and she liked it too. She still generally doesn’t like yolks or sauces, but it was cool that she tried without any pressure from us.
    • A- ate her whole ice cream cone.
  • Sleep
    • A-‘s middle-of-the-night tantrum calmed down as soon as W- came in and gave her a hug. She wanted milk and food. W- gave her milk, but drew the line at a snack.A- asked me for a hug afterwards, and then fell asleep again.
    • A- had a small tantrum about using the toilet first, but I think it was because she was tired. Still crying, she followed me into room while I set up her nest. I asked her what she preferred, and she answered. Once the bed was set up the way she liked, she hopped right in, quietly listened to Cattus Petasatus, and fell asleep holding her stuffed toy.
    • After lots of reading, A- wanted milk. I offered to take her down for milk if we brushed teeth afterwards. She decided to stay in bed, and eventually quietly fell asleep.
    • At bedtime, she asked for a bath, so I have her one. I read her a couple of books, and then said I was too sleepy. She fell asleep calmly snuggling Sheep while nestling between two comforters. I stayed on the crib mattress, which was also on the floor. In the middle of the night, she abandoned her nest and snuggled up next to me on the crib mattress.
  • Emotion
    • A- asked me to draw a lonely A-. Then she asked me to draw W- hugging her.
  • Household
    • A- requested sushi and fetched me a can of salmon.
  • Social
    • A- wanted to play with my glasses, so I had to set firm boundaries.
    • We caught up with Joy and J- at the EarlyON centre. J- was comfortable holding my hand and waiting with me.
    • A- played with independence. She asked me to say, “You’re not allowed to go up the hill.” She ran up the hill, then wanted me to chase her and carry her down.
    • We went to the EarlyON centre and caught up with Joy and J-. A- enjoyed playing with the riding toys, and she gobbled up lots of nectarine chunks at lunch.
    • A- spent some time with J- while I took a much-needed nap. She asked her to read “With My Daddy,” changing the words to refer to J-.
  • Pretend
    • A- had fun playing with the big cardboard boxes in the schoolyard. She pretended they were houses, and we visited each other. She also pretended that one was an oven and that she was a carrot muffin.
    • A- asked me to use the long, thin towel to tie a pretend bike trailer to her balance bike. She had lots of fun bringing it around.
    • The doctor’s kit that J- gave A- was immediately put to use. She liked the dental mirror and the stethoscope.
    • A- really liked the giraffe that W- made for her using the Little Engineer set. They added wheels and wings to it, and she flew it around the house.
    • A- merrily typed on her cardboard laptop. She said, “I’m getting a thought out of my head.”
    • J- gave us a doctor’s kit for A-, which she immediately had fun using.
    • A- asked me to tape the wooden box to the side of the front shelf. She pretended it was an airplane bassinet. She put a Duplo figure inside the box, carried a chair over, and sat in the chair while periodically checking on the Duplo kid.
  • Cognition
    • As soon as A- woke up, she said, “I want to get a star from IKEA.”
  • Kaizen
    • I couldn’t find my Presto card until I remembered that A- had insisted on putting it in her backpack. W- gave me a cardholder so that I could try keeping the card on my keychain or on a lanyard.
  • Us
    • While updating my business accounts in preparation for my fiscal year end, I noticed my bank had started charging me a small fee for tax filing. Turned out the tax filing service had changed to have a monthly fee. I called to cancel, since I had stopped using the service in 2016 or so.

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Sketches

Time

Category The other week Last week Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
Discretionary – Productive 1.1 1.9 0.8 3.1 1.3
Unpaid work 6.8 7.5 0.7 12.5 1.2
Sleep 39.0 39.4 0.4 66.2 0.7
Business 0.8 1.1 0.3 1.8 0.5
A- 40.8 40.8 0.0 68.5 0.0
Discretionary – Play 0.3 0.3 0.0 0.5 0.0
Discretionary – Social 0.0 0.0 0.0 0.0 0.0
Discretionary – Family 0.0 0.0 0.0 0.0 0.0
Personal 11.3 9.1 -2.2 15.3 -3.7

Weekly review: Week ending September 14, 2018

Things are starting to feel a little normal again. We’ve been going to the EarlyON learning centre, and A- likes playing with the toys and kids there. I’ve been prioritizing sleep and joining A- for afternoon naps. I managed to do a tiny bit of consulting by sneaking it in whenever I woke up before A- did, although there are still quite a few things on my list. A- still often has tantrums when resisting bedtime or when I refuse to nurse, but W- can usually calm her down. We’ve gotten back into the rhythm of planning the week’s meals and preparing them during the weekend. The mini-vacuum is back, too, so it’s a little easier cleaning the house. I started working on another little project, so we’ll see how that goes.

  • Gross motor
    • A- and I had lots of fun chasing each other around her tower in the kitchen.
    • We’ve been going to a nearby EarlyON centre because A- loves their riding toys. Today she learned how to pedal a tricycle. I helped her figure out how to push with one foot and then the other, lifting the foot she’s not pushing with so that she doesn’t get confused. She’s really looking forward to getting her own pedal bike after she can coast well on her balance bike! (5.1.5 Riding Toys)
  • Language
    • For some reason, A- has been using the excuse “I’m too young to read / fold laundry / …”.
    • A- dramatically collapsed on the floor, saying, “I fall on the harsh floor.” W- and I looked at each other and said, “Harsh?” We laughed at the playful drama.
    • A- took some of the magnetic tiles to a corner away from the other kids, saying she wanted a “quiet area.” (2.2 Self-regulation)
    • A- liked substituting ideas in books. LIttle Excavator became Big Excavator, and Never Follow a Dinosaur became Never Follow an Excavator. She corrected us whenever we used the original words from the books. (4. Cognition)
  • Self-care and independence
    • We went to the ocularist for a checkup. A- was pretty anxious, and often reminded herself about the toy box. The ocularist said she’ll get a new conformer in November. In the meantime, the ocularist polished her conformer, and A- picked a box of crayons from the toy box.
  • Sleep
    • Much resistance to bedtime until I used my stern voice, after which she settled down after 8h of awake time and about 5m additional fussing. She had a big tantrum earlier because of weaning, but W- helped her settle down by pretending to make muffins.
    • A- had a big tantrum resisting bedtime because she wanted a bath. W- calmed her down after lots of snuggling.
  • Social
    • A- played with J- in A-‘s room, shooing other people away by saying, “Private!”
    • A- had a small owie and insisted on W- for comfort. “Mama’s kisses don’t work. Daddy’s kisses do.”
    • We went to the EarlyON centre in a nearby school. A- enjoyed playing with the toys inside and outside the centre. Unlike many centres, it has a nice outdoor space, and the facilitator has done a good job of focusing on loose parts and natural materials.
    • We spent all day at the EarlyON centre. A- liked riding on the riding toys, pushing the dryer drum around, painting, and playing with magnetic tiles.
    • After music class, we went to the EarlyON centre. A- enjoyed listening to the story and playing with riding toys. We spent the afternoon at the park playing with Melissa and H-, whom we met at the EarlyON centre.
    • A- enjoyed music class, walking around to music and playing shakers and bells. She wanted to be carried about half the time. At the end of the class, she gave the teacher a hug.
  • World
    • W- went for a haircut, so A- and I came along and watched the hairstylist work.
  • Us
    • We roasted a duck, marinated chicken adobo, and also prepared pork chops. Yum yum yum.
    • I checked out a nearby daycare. A- enjoyed playing with their toys, but the approach was a bit more academic-focused and less play-based, so we decided to continue keeping A- at home.

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Time

Category The other week Last week Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
A- 30.8 40.8 10.0 68.5 16.7
Sleep 35.1 39.0 3.9 65.5 6.6
Personal 12.9 11.3 -1.6 19.0 -2.7
Unpaid work 11.7 6.8 -4.9 11.4 -8.2
Discretionary – Productive 2.4 1.1 -1.3 1.8 -2.2
Business 1.4 0.8 -0.6 1.3 -1.0
Discretionary – Play 1.6 0.3 -1.3 0.5 -2.1
Discretionary – Social 1.4 0.0 -1.4 0.0 -2.4
Discretionary – Family 2.8 0.0 -2.8 0.0 -4.6

Weekly review: Week ending September 7, 2018

  • Gross motor
    • A- went up the slide many times. She also slid down the big slides by herself. She liked swinging in the big kid swing, pumping her legs back and forth.
    • A- walked along the ropes of the climbing structure, holding the ropes and my hand for balance.
    • A- liked running up the hill and coming back for a hug whenever I blew the whistle. Sometimes she even ran a little out of sight. She also enjoyed being chased and picked up.
    • A- jumped forward from the pillow and landed on her hands on the bed several times. She loved pouncing.
  • Fine motor
    • A- asked me to make playdough fruits so that she could cut them.
  • Sensory
    • We made up for the indoor days this week with time outside: lots of walks, some reading outside, and plenty of playground time.
  • Language
    • I’ve been telling A- the truth: I’m done with nursing. This morning, she woke up saying, “I’m not done! I’m not done!”
    • A- had fun with opposites, and her pairings amused all of us. She answered us when we asked her what was the opposite of something (“What’s the opposite of light?” “Dark!”) and also posed her own questions. (“What’s the opposite of drink?” “What?” “Stop drinking!”). According to A-, the opposite of playground is JFRC (the drop-in centre), and the opposite of JFRC is library (because the JFRC is in the basement and the library is upstairs). The opposite of put away is play, and the opposite of cat is kitten.
    • Talking about our cats: “Luke is patient. Luke is not scratchy.”
    • A- asked me to read “What Does the Fox Say?” six times in a row. She liked repeating the made-up sounds from the book/song.
    • A- said she did not like my pointy shirt (shirts with collars), so I changed into something else.
  • Self-care and independence
    • A- cut up cherries with a butter knife.
  • Eating
    • A- really liked the carrots that I cut into flower shapes.
    • A- really liked the pesto Jen made using penne pasta. She doesn’t like fusilli at the moment, so maybe we’ll try penne at home.
  • Sleep
    • A- kept resisting sleep, but was probably just cold. Eventually I thought of suggesting she wear pajamas. She fussed a little more, and then curled up with me and slept.
    • A- was in the carrier. I suggested that she take a nap, and after a lot of talking, she eventually did.
  • Social
    • We visited Morgan, Cathy, and M-. A- loved playing with marbles and bubbles, and she enjoyed eating the duck wrap.
    • A- reminded me to look both ways when crossing the street, and insisted that I do it again whenever I forgot.
    • A- liked riding in the wagon with E-.
    • A- did not want me to come in for bedtime reading. W- read to her instead.
  • Pretend
    • A- pretended to be Yaya Irene. She cleaned her play area, and then put the chairs upside down on top of the table and pretended to sweep under the table.
    • A- played dentist with Lullaby Lamb as her patient. She also liked being the patient with W- as the dentist chair.
  • Kaizen
    • After I misplaced and found my library card, I decided to finally photocopy the barcode and stick it on my phone case. The library scanner read it fine. Hooray!
  • Us
    • I woke up early and sewed a pair of shorts for myself!
    • I sewed matching shorts for A- too. She liked wearing the same kind of clothes that I was wearing.
    • I hung out with Eric Boyd and chatted about delegation.

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Time

Category The other week Last week Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
Sleep 34.3 35.1 0.7 58.9 1.3
A- 43.2 30.8 -12.4 51.8 -20.9
Personal 9.4 12.9 3.5 21.7 5.8
Unpaid work 6.3 11.7 5.4 19.6 9.1
Discretionary – Family 3.0 2.8 -0.2 4.6 -0.3
Discretionary – Productive 1.9 2.4 0.5 4.1 0.9
Discretionary – Play 0.6 1.6 0.9 2.6 1.5
Discretionary – Social 0.3 1.4 1.1 2.4 1.9
Business 1.0 1.4 0.4 2.3 0.7

I managed to do a little consulting when Kathryn Everest came over so that I could help her with Tableau. Also, more time cooking this week, but a bit of negative productivity when I made a mistake that wasted the chicken and vegetables I was cooking. Boo. More practice! Also, I got a bit better at tracking walks separately from childcare, and I managed to have two afternoon naps along with A-.

Next week: ocularist, music classes.

Weekly review: Week ending August 31, 2018

  • Fine motor
    • A- wanted to type on the Bluetooth keyboard. She did a good job of finding various letters. I wonder if it’s time to write her a little Emacs Lisp thing that will give her visual and auditory feedback when she types a letter…
  • Language
    • I received the cookie cutters for numbers and lowercase letters that I ordered from Amazon. A- had fun identifying a few letters and numbers, cutting them out of playdough, and playing with them.
    • At the cardiologist’s office, we were making small talk, asking A- if she thought the cardiologist was short or tall. I said that relative to A-, everyone is tall. A- said, “Except for Mama.”
    • A- can tell me why she likes books. She said, “I like this book because it has chicks in it.”
    • We were at A&W, and A- was happily using a straw to bubble water in a huge mug. I reminded A- that dinosaurs don’t bubble their milk. She interrupted her bubbling to say, “Water!” and kept bubbling away.
  • Self-care and independence
    • A- was crawling around when she stumbled and cut her lip. She didn’t ask to nurse, although she was happy to do so when I offered.
    • A- mostly sat still for the ultrasound exam. The cardiologist said that the VSD is pretty insignificant now, although there’s a slight leak in her aortic valve and the muscle bundle continues to grow slowly. We’ll follow up next year.
    • I decided to relax my weaning restrictions because I needed more sleep, so I offered to let A- nurse in bed instead of going to the nursing chair (really a large pillow set against the wall). She refused a few times, insisting on going to the nursing chair.
  • Sleep
    • A- resisted bedtime. She ended up falling asleep on my pillow with the light still on.
    • W- took over childcare in the evening, making it possible for me to have a much-appreciated nap.
  • Emotion
    • A- stomped down the hallway, hangry tantrum in full swing. She stopped at the end of the tape on the floor and did a few squats just like the ladder exercise that W- taught her, and then resumed her tantrum.
    • A- was overtired since she resisted going in the stroller for a nap. I put A- in her room while I put away the groceries and the stroller. She had a major tantrum because of overtiredness and separation anxiety. She gradually shifted from yelling about wanting to turn off the fan herself, to wanting to go downstairs with me, to patting the pillow beside her and yelling at me to lie down with her too and snuggle her tight. I was amused. Once she was okay with being tightly snuggled, she fell asleep.
  • Household
    • I was feeding Neko some wet cat food. I noticed I had reached the end of the can, so I said to myself, “I’m going to need another one of these.” As I scraped the last of the cat food into a bowl, A- fetched another can of cat food and gave it to me, all without being asked.
  • Social
    • A- was greatly amused by the cat-trap that W- made. He dangled his arms down, and then swung Luke up when Luke wandered within reach.
    • I was exhausted. I had stayed up late doing some consulting and planning, and A- had gotten up early and had a long tantrum about weaning. Even our emergency morning nap didn’t let me catch up enough. By mid-afternoon, I was sneezing practically every other minute. It was time for a cat-nap. I let A- play in the living room while I dozed on the couch. She puttered around, read me a book (Piglet and Mama), and then discovered the laundry basket next to the couch. “I’m folding laundry,” she said. She found a washcloth, then asked, “Where’s the water bottle? I want to wet this.” Imagining the possible spills, I suggested that she use the sink instead. I heard her run off to the kitchen, climb into her tower, turn the faucet on and off, and come back. She wiped my face with the damp washcloth. “Wake up, it’s spring!” she said. “You slept all winter.” She had reenacted the scene from Little Brown Bear Won’t Take a Nap, complete with props.
    • A- had fun playing a shushing game. She asked me to make a loud noise, and then put a finger to her lips and hushed me.
  • Pretend
    • We’re slowly moving away from plastic toys, so we made a cardboard kitchen for A-. She had fun cooking an egg on the stovetop and baking a pizza in the oven.
    • A- asked for a pretend microwave. I glued white paper on a cereal box, drew the microwave interface, and cut the door open.
    • I made a cardboard point-of-sale terminal with a coin drawer, a scale, and a slot for pulling out a receipt. A- liked it very much.
    • A- played pretend ultrasound quite a few times, raiding the sticker bin after each exam. She also kept revisiting dental surgery in our drawings and stories.
    • A- liked pushing books through a slot in the coffee table legs, pretending to return them to the library. She also pretended to request one of her favourite books from a librarian.
    • A- was interested in using real cash in the cardboard point-of-sale terminal I made her. W- pretended to buy something with a $20 bill, and she gave back $5 and $10. W- jokingly asked her how much she made, and she said $5. Lucky guess! Anyway, W- made her a bunch of bills out of coloured paper.
  • Kaizen
    • Lots of cooking. I tried out a dinner roll recipe, and it turned out okay.
    • I updated my ledger to reflect my conversion of many of my TD e-series fund units to ETFs.
  • Us
    • David Ing dropped by since he was biking through our neighbourhood. We chatted about retirement, financial planning, kids, and returning to the workforce.
    • Spurred by the prospect of collecting another stamp in my library passport, we visited the Malvern library. I liked the way I could watch the automated book return conveyor belt do its thing, and A- liked the play area.
    • Our medium-haired cat Leia has been having tummy problems, so she’s confined to downstairs until it all gets sorted out.
    • Given my low energy and lack of discretionary time in the middle of weaning, I started thinking about whether this was enough and what I might want to prepare for the next five or so years. I think I’m mostly okay with this being a possible new normal, although I still have much to learn about being in the moment and accepting things.
    • I tossed some salt on a chicken and popped it into the oven to roast. It turned out to be a really easy weekday dinner.
    • After W- rescued us from a mini-breakdown because I was super-tired and I didn’t like the way A- kept pulling up my shirt to try to nurse, I realized I was all done with nursing.
    • W- told me how the mostly-deflated balloon kept following them around unnervingly, perhaps drawn by the convection of air heated by their bodies.

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Time

Category The other week Last week Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
A- 41.9 43.2 1.3 77.5 2.2
Sleep 36.7 34.3 -2.4 61.5 -4.0
Personal 12.4 9.4 -3.0 16.9 -5.1
Unpaid work 9.3 6.3 -3.0 11.2 -5.1
Discretionary – Family 0.8 3.0 2.2 5.3 3.7
Discretionary – Productive 5.0 1.9 -3.1 3.4 -5.2
Business 0.7 1.0 0.3 1.7 0.5
Discretionary – Play 0.0 0.6 0.6 1.2 1.1
Discretionary – Social 0.0 0.3 0.3 0.5 0.5

Weaning is still disrupting our routines. I think we’re slowly making progress, though.

Weekly review: Week ending August 24, 2018

  • Gross motor
    • W- taught A- how to do the wheelbarrow exercise.
    • A- practised riding her balance bike down the slope. She can’t coast yet, but she’s starting to be able to manage a little more speed.
  • Fine motor
    • A- was interested in making paper chains. W- showed her how to do it because she asked to make daisy chains after reading Piglet and Mama.
    • A- had fun closing one eye.
  • Language
    • A- could name the opposite of something even without the matching card from the Opposites game.
  • Art
    • A- sometimes tries to draw letters, and she actually does a pretty good job at some of them: M, L, J… One time I couldn’t figure out what she was doing. She scribbled circles and said something that I couldn’t quite figure out: F? S? After several repetitions, rephrasings, and lots of “Mama no understand!”s, I connected the dots with her previously pretending being Ramon from the “Ish” book. She was telling me she drew “ish.” When I finally understood, she lit up and started drawing more “-ish”es.
  • Self-care and independence
    • We were able to skip the long nursing session in the morning.
    • A- let me snuggle her to bed. She insisted on being in my arms and being sung to. She was overtired and didn’t brush after bedtime milk, so I’m going to switch to offering water instead.
  • Sleep
    • A- didn’t want to nap in bed, but I was super-sleepy. W- took her for a walk in the stroller while I napped. He said that she quickly went to sleep once in the stroller. I don’t mind using the stroller as a nap crutch for the next little while, at least until we get weaning sorted out.
    • Day 3 of taking A- out for a stroller nap in the middle of the afternoon. She consistently falls asleep quickly and stays asleep for a few hours. It’s a lot more pleasant than trying to keep her from pulling at my clothes when she’s in the carrier, and I don’t mind walking to the grocery store for one or two things. I still don’t feel comfortable getting a nap while she’s out in the backyard. I’ve been able to wash dishes and catch up on my journal, though, so that’s a start. I’m just going to have to figure out how to continue this as the weather cools down, and how to adjust when she stops napping. In the meantime, this is good.
    • A- was very upset. Weaning was tough, she wasn’t keen on bedtime, and she definitely didn’t want to be left alone for a few minutes while I got something from downstairs. I couldn’t nurse her into calmness because I was trying not to stay dependent on weaning, so I just stayed close, listened, and offered to rock her or hug her. She eventually fell asleep amidst bursts of crying.
  • Household
    • W- got home late. A- insisted on spending all evening with him. W- handled the whole bedtime routine while I did some paperwork for my mom and tidied up. A- and I have also been experimenting with delaying nursing, so we’ll see how that goes.
  • Social
    • A- wanted to go out for a walk, so we visited Joy and J- at their place. We read lots of books. They also liked playing with blocks, riding toys, and balloons.
    • On the way home from the playground, we ran into Joy and J-, so we invited them over. J- and A- snacked on grapes, proved with watercolours, and played music. A- let J- turn the moon light on and off, but she got possessive when J- tried turning on the cloud light or touching her pet sheep, so we wrapped up and shared some buns and muffins with them. Good socialization practice!
    • A- was very amused by the “Disappearing A-” magic trick. She and W- stood together, then W- held a big towel in front of both of them. I wondered out loud where A- was. W- counted down while shepherding her behind him, then dropped the towel. I marvelled loudly at A-‘s disappearance, ignoring the loud giggling behind W-‘s legs.
    • A- wanted to stay up. I was really tired, so I lay down and closed my eyes on our floor bed while she played. She was doing all right, and then wham! She accidentally rolled into me and hit my lip pretty hard. I teared up because it hurt a lot, and I put pressure on it to stop the bleeding. A- was pretty concerned. “What are Mama’s tires (tears) doing?” I explained that I had an owie and that the tears meant that it hurt, but that I would feel better soon and that I still loved her. She took my phone and pretended to show me videos, since she likes watching videos of herself and she thought I might like to see videos too. My lip hurt too much for me to read her a book, so she read Little Excavator out loud all by herself. I closed my eyes again, this time shielding my face with my hands. I heard her playing some more, and then she exclaimed, “Yay!” She had successfully diapered her stuffed sheep. “Would Mama like Sheep?” she asked. So I snuggled with Sheep for a bit while she played. She also tried nursing for reassurance, but I had to say no to that and to gently prevent her from pulling my clothes. I offered to cuddle her instead, but she was still too active and I was worried about getting hit again. Eventually she settled in, saying in a small voice, “I want Mama, Mama, Mama, I want Mama,” and we both drifted off.
  • Pretend
    • A- did the motions and sounds that she remembered from watching the video of her sticking her tongue out when she was an infant. It’s fun watching her reenact things with surprising attention to detail.
    • A- pretended that we were related to the pediatrician.
  • Kaizen
    • We were able to go on a family bike trip, yay! W- and I biked up to Walmart, and I brought A- in the trailer.
    • A-‘s been fascinated with letters and numbers recently, so I asked her if she wanted me to look into replacing the elephant decals on her walls with letters and numbers. She immediately jumped on the idea. I explained that I still needed to look for something we liked, order it, wait for it to be delivered… She would not be dissuaded. “Replace elephants! Replace elephants!” W- moved the elephants up, wrote a few large letters and numbers on pieces of paper, and taped them up on the walls. We’ll see how this goes.
    • W- took care of A- while I rebalanced my portfolio in my registered accounts, converting a large portion of my TD e-series into ETFs. It was a little nerve-wracking to make sure I got all the numbers right, but I think it’s okay now. I’ll probably keep the nonregistered account as e-series for now so that I don’t have to worry about paperwork or capital gains tradeoffs.
    • W- got our land line converted to a dry loop for DSL. I should probably memorize my other number for messages.
  • Us
    • I submitted a special power of attorney to the Philippine Consulate General for notarization and authentication. It turned out that the fee was CAD 33.75 per copy, so I submitted one set instead of the four or seven I’d originally planned. I’ll wait for the lawyers to tell me if we need more before I put the package together for mailing. If they can get by with one original, that’s great. If not, it’s just another field trip with A-. There’s a community centre next to the consulate and a library close by, so maybe we’ll just go there directly instead of going to the Ontario Science Centre first.
  • Oops
    • I learned the hard way that you shouldn’t freeze and thaw an unopened bottle of olive oil, even if you had somehow survived freezing and thawing partially full bottles of olive oil before. Actually, we go through a bottle of olive oil quickly enough that I should probably leave it in the pantry instead of worrying about whether it will go rancid.

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Time

Category The other week % Last week % Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
A- 43.6 39.3 -4.3 66.0 -7.2
Sleep 30.9 34.4 3.4 57.7 5.8
Personal 7.1 11.7 4.5 19.6 7.6
Unpaid work 6.0 8.7 2.7 14.6 4.5
Discretionary – Productive 2.6 4.6 2.1 7.8 3.5
Discretionary – Family 2.3 0.7 -1.6 1.2 -2.7
Business 0.3 0.6 0.4 1.1 0.7
Discretionary – Play 0.0 0.0 0.0 0.0 0.0
Discretionary – Social 7.2 0.0 -7.2 0.0 -12.1

We continue to work on weaning, so even though my time records say I spent more hours in bed, it took more effort to help A- settle down throughout the night since I couldn’t just nurse her back to sleep. She also strongly preferred spending time with W- whenever he was available, so W- took over the bedtime routine while I did more chores and cooking. I did some more writing during A-‘s stroller naps, but I haven’t figured out how to fit consulting and other discretionary activities back in my life. Maybe after we figure out weaning and our sleep settles down again…