Okay, I'm starting to get really annoyed at the weakness of my calendar system. The Google Calendar integration into Notes would have worked... if I hadn't confused myself badly. Fortunately, I can redeem myself, but I need to either get better at handling appointments or find ways of minimizing them entirely.
I had a tentative entry for a chat with Sambhavi Chandrashekar. We chatted over the phone and pushed that out a bit, because she'll be busy for a few weeks. Having briefly scanned my calendar, I assumed that the somewhat-vaguely-named "Lunch with Sacha Chua" entry was related to that chat. No, it wasn't. It was with someone else.
I got the Google reminder on my phone and (eventually) in my Lotus Notes calendar, so it's not about setting up a better reminder system.
And to think I suggested the date and place, too! Embarrassing.
So, how can I avoid making mistakes like this in the future?
The key problem was that the meeting notice I added to my calendar had insufficient details. I had received an event invitation through e-mail and I couldn't figure out how to add it to my Lotus Notes calendar, so I tried accepting it through Gmail. However, I must've accepted it incorrectly, because it didn't contain any reference to the original sender. Next time, I should double-check that calendar entries have all the relevant details, and that these details are included in the subject line whenever possible.
If that's in place, then the second thing I need to do is slow down and be more mindful during my morning reviews. It's very hard to catch yourself assuming something, particularly when you're distracted. Maybe I should make this a morning ritual: savor a cup of tea and go over all the important details of the day. It'll be worth avoiding these spikes of stress.
I can also minimize the risk of this happening by moving more social appointments to flexible times whenever possible. Instead of meeting people over lunch, I can invite them to tea at my place. This has the added benefit of being able to bring interesting people together. I can't do this for all appointments, though, so I really do need to improve my process here.
... and no, even handy services like I Want Sandy won't help, because the problem was that I glossed over the reminder because I assumed it was related to a different event that had been cancelled.
The key thing, then, is to slow down when my calendar is involved, because that's one of my weak points. The times that my calendar system tends to fail are when my Lotus Notes application is closed because I'm having software problems and when my calendar is too crowded or I know parts of it are out of date. I'm dealing with the first case by copying all my appointments into my Emacs Org planner during my morning review, which _should_ have caught today's error if I had put enough information in the subject line. So I should slow down and click on all the details to make sure I know the full details of each appointment, especially if it was one I'd made several weeks ago.
Okay, how can I practice this? I've forwarded the details of another interesting event to the person I failed to meet today, and we might meet then. I can practice by inviting other friends out to lunch or dinner. I can give myself a minimum amount of time for my morning planning (that's a strange idea, but it just might work). I can practice making scheduled commitments. I can practice by working on tasks that require several days' or hours' lead time, too.
I can hack this. Grr.