Headlines for Thursday:
- Social networks: Basic, basic feature - multiple e-mail addresses (148 words)
- Quinn's birthday party - all-you-can-eat sushi! (110 words)
- The Secret (758 words)
- Tag team networking (620 words)
- Raising life by the power of two (396 words)
- Creating opportunities (65 words)
- Sweet! Career Resource Library totally rocks! (57 words)
- Doc Mana is retiring in 2007! (38 words)
- Pamana Fund in honor of Doc Mana (80 words)
|A||X||@1130 Doctor's appointment|
|A||X||@1600 Meet with Mark|
|A||X||E-mail Toastmasters - Khalid, Jackie giving speeches. Anthony presiding?|
|A||X||Get fountain pen fixed|
|A||X||Pick up parcel from 131 Bloor Street W before 5:00 PM|
|A||X||Confirm doctor's appointment|
|B||X||Reply about wiki : E-Mail from Don Marti|
|B||X||Check out the Pisay Alumni thing : E-Mail from PSHS National Alumni Association|
|B||X||Check out org-mode GTD article: http://members.optusnet.com.au/~charles57/GTD/orgmode.html : E-Mail from Charles Cave|
|A||C||List the balls I have in the air, prioritize|
|B||C||Tag cloud my site : E-Mail from Gabriel Mansour|
With the number of e-mail addresses people have, I think that all business networking sites should allow people to have multiple e-mail addresses as part of their profile.
LinkedIn does this right.
OpenBC's implementation forces you to have
a business e-mail, and changing this requires re-confirmation *and*
locks you out of your account. Yes, you can set your personal e-mail
address, but it's not the same. For example, I'm known as sachac AT
ca.ibm.com and sacha AT sachachua.com . Both are equally valid for
business, and people will look for me using either address. sacha AT
sachachua.com is also my personal e-mail address, as is sachac AT
gmail.com and sacha AT sacha.sachachua.com .
Quinn celebrated her 22nd birthday party at Mariko Sushi (851 Bloor St W), which has a decent all-you-can-eat menu for CAD 14.99 (~ 20 with tax and tip). It was a wonderful evening of round-robin discussions as we introduced different aspects of ourselves. We started by giving our names and our favorite type of sushi. Fan asked what our official job titles were, then I asked people to talk about one of their non-geeky aspects. Each (re)introduction spawned other conversation, and I really enjoyed getting to know everyone at the table a little more deeply.
It was a good party held in honor of a great friend. =)
On the walk back toward Greg's Ice Cream for post-sushi dessert, Simon received an invitation from Shane to join him and a few friends for The Secret, a motivational video about the power of positive thinking. Although I had been looking forward to getting to know Richard and the rest of the folks over ice cream in the continuation of Quinn's birthday party, I also felt that it would be good to join Simon for this. It was a good decision. Not only did I have the unexpected pleasure of reconnecting with Bryan Pickle (whom I had met at one of Mike Fletcher's parties), but the video was thought-provoking.
Not that the ideas proposed in the video were new to me. I take it practically for granted that you attract what you think about, that you notice what you're attuned to, and that the universe is one of abundance. The video was flashy and fast-paced, although you'll probably want to skip the pretentious first sequence and mentally edit out some of the more over-the-top effects. Despite the distractions, though, I managed to still my mind enough to attend to the video, collecting stories, gleaning insights, and reflecting on my own experiences.
There was a short lull after the video ended, then everyone else dug into the almost-forgotten fruits. I stayed still, turning the thoughts over in my head, permitting silence to fill in the gaps and listening to how I felt instead of immediately putting things into words. This was perhaps strange to the friends who were there. Shane asked me if I didn't like the movie. I smiled and told him that it was the story of my life, that I knew what it was to grow up attracting all these blessings. Lara agreed that everyone could probably find examples of experiences that fit, and the conversation went on - but still I kept quiet, reflecting.
A few hours earlier and I could have channelled the energy of passion and excitement into the discussion, matching the tone of Shane and Lara's voices, but I was in a serene mood. I haven't yet connected with either Shane or Lara on that level, when the silences are comfortable and one speaks when moved to. I've been that way with Quinn, and Jed, and Simon - yes, Simon has his calm moments, hard as that may be to believe. <laugh>
Serenity. Those who know me primarily for my enthusiasm and who have mainly seen me on the sugar-high I get on life usually worry the first time they see me in one of my calm moods, and even those who know me well often ask me if I'm feeling down. (Trust me, if I were feeling down, you'd know!) Serenity is that quiet stillness within me and the space I create in order to discern.
And now, hours later, I have a better understanding of how I feel.
I agree with the gist of the video: the mind is powerful, our attitude shapes our life, and our feelings and intuition give us a good way to sense how well we're doing.
However, thinking about it, I've come to realize that it is not the full secret of my life. What thesecret.tv describes is not my philosophy or my way of living. There is something different, something missing...
Ah. Here is the gap. The video focuses on receiving, but does not describe the great joy I have in giving. The video describes visualizing a goal, but I also love discerning a path. The video talks about uplifting the self, but my desires go beyond myself.
In order to serve, I must take care of myself, of course. I can't help people if I am miserable; joy comes from joy. But I am confident that if I listen and extend myself, the universe will nourish me. It always has.
I do not need to manifest anything into my life. Happiness is not something that is in my future, a puzzle with jigsaw pieces that I have to find and assemble. It is simply now. I have an abundance of opportunities, and my job is to explore them. It'll be *tons* of fun!
I ask the universe for some things, but in general the world gives me things before I even know to ask for them. If I am to receive anything, I ask for the discernment to see the best things to do at a moment, the beauty in each instant, and the ways to help people explore their potential.
I dropped into the University of Toronto Career Resource Library for a few minutes before my annual health checkup. Seeing one of my to-read books on the shelf, I picked it up and skimmed through it. It's great having these resources close by!
Darcy Rezac's "Work The Pond: Use the Power of Positive Networking to Leap Forward in Work and Life" is an engaging book that focuses on a "what-can-I-do-for-you" attitude. It's a good read, and one that I'd recommend to others next to Keith Ferrazzi's "Never Eat Alone", Leil Lowndes' "How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships," and Tim Sanders' "Love is the Killer App."
I particularly like Chapter 5: Travel in Pairs. "Work the Pond" has the best tips on pair networking that I've read so far. Your tag-teammate doesn't have to be your spouse, or even a close friend. A business associate whom you would like to get to know better can make a terrific tag-teammate. if you both decide to help each other out. It's a powerful technique, and one that I'd like to help with more!
Here's an excerpt from p75:
- Tag-teammates introduce you to people they know you might be interested in meeting. Their network is working for you.
- Tag-teammates help you when you forget a person's name.
- Tag-teammates keep an eye out for each other. If one is trapped in a conversation or left high and dry, the other can come to their aid.
- Tag-teammates can sing your praises much better than you can. It's hard for you to launch into a story about yourself.
The chapter is full of practical tips, such as sitting two seats apart - that way, each of you will get to know two people but you will be close enough to build on each other's stories or rescue each other from the "cone of silence" that sometimes happens when people to either side of someone engage in separate conversations.
The book is well worth getting just for that chapter alone. Here's the quick summary:
- When the invitation says guests, bring someone. You'll have more fun. Remember to RSVP for them as well.
- Fill them in on the rules of being a tag-teammate.
- If your teammate doesn't introduce you to someone immediately, use the Step-Forward Rescue. Stick out your hand and introduce yourself. Now you've helped your teammate.
- Don't be afraid to sing the praises of your teammates. If they do great volunteer work or have won awards, it's better if you tell others about it.
- If your teammate doesn't have a business card, encourage him or her to get a personal card and develop a tribal introduction.
- Act as a host for your teammate.
- Use your teammate's name in conversation; everyone benefits from being reminded of names.
- Your tag-teammate doesn't have to be a spouse. Use an event as an opportunity to get to know a business associate better.
- Keep an eye on each other and come to the rescue, if one is trapped or left alone.
- Give your teammate a heads-up on the people you will be meeting.
- If you are a member of a tag-team, you have a responsibility to do your bit.
- Show your kids how to network; if you can, bring them as your teammate.
- If you are the organizer of an event, think about the value of inviting couples. Now two people will tell your story.
Get the book and grab a networking buddy. I'd be happy to help at any of the networking events I go to, and I'd love to attend even more!
When two people share an incredible experience, that experience is not multiplied by two, but rather raised by the power of two. It more than doubles - it's squared! A 10 doesn't become 20 - it becomes 100, or even more. Why?
Because shared experiences become stories that are told over and over again.
On page 79 of "Work the Pond" (Darcy Rezac) is a powerful example of how to build an incredible experience and get a story told not ten times, but a thousand times. The Navy invited opinion leaders to understand what the Navy does and to tell the Navy's story. They put together a fantastic experience involving landing aboard and taking off from an aircraft carrier and hanging out of top-gun pilots. But they didn't just arrange this spectacle for the opinion leaders - they were smart enough to include the spouses as well. This meant that instead of the experience becoming, "Oh, no, not the carrier story again!", it became a treasured story to be told over and over again.
I remember a story my parents told me about giving people incredible experiences. My parents understood that if you're going to give someone an Experience with a capital E, that experience would be magnified even more if they had someone to share it with. If they were the only ones to, say, go on a helicopter flight, the stories would wear thin or be almost unbelievable. If they had one friend along, though, the stories would go on and on, growing more exciting with each memory.
I've seen that among friends, too. Driving around town with the Katz brothers was *amazing*. They completed each others' sentences, refreshed each others' memory, built up each other's energy. Reliving memories with my barkada (close group of friends) brings back the fun and the laughter. (Peppy, remember all the ice cream we had after I worked on your computer?)
I really appreciate being able to share all these experiences with people. I think that's one of the coolest things about having long relationships, and I'm looking forward to enjoying that even more with my family and my friends.
Anyway. If you want to make something really special for someone, make it possible for them to share the experiences and the stories with at least one other person. =) "Remember when..." are such powerful words!
Okay, you definitely have to get this book. =) Read the chapter on "Opportunity is Everywhere", too. And "Repeat, repeat, repeat." Great role models, great stories, great tips.
Actually, just go and read the whole thing.
Darcy Rezac's "Work The Pond: Use the Power of Positive Networking to Leap Forward in Work and Life". ISBN 0-7352-0402-0.
(Someday I'm going to have Amazon links...)
I have in front of me a big yellow binder with news clippings about networking.
Awesome. You know what that gives me? Names and organizations of people who have recently written about networking...
I heart U of T! I am so building a library like this in whatever universities are near me in the future...
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From Didith Rodrigo's blog: Dr. Pablo Manalastas will be retiring in 2007.
Who's going to bounce up and down and talk about Linux? Or coach contest geeks? Or tease people about their love lives?
Doc Mana's ubercool.
In honor of Doc Mana's wonderful, wonderful service, the computer science department of the Ateneo de Manila University is setting up The Pamana Fund. I'm definitely contributing to that one. He rocks, and he's one of two teachers who were the reasons why I'm into Linux, open source, programming competitions, and all those other things that really made me grow.
When DISCS gets the contribution sorted out, I'll blog about it in more detail.
See Didith Rodrigo's blog for details.
- E-mail to Sander A. Smith
- E-mail to Anne Fan Chen
- E-mail to Colin McGregor, Bill Thanis
- E-mail to Khalid Ghaffar
- E-mail to Christopher Kuettner
- E-mail to Ethan Perry
- E-mail to Clara Fong
- E-mail to Tim Sanders
- E-mail to Goran Matic
- E-mail to Shiva Shahmohamed
- E-mail to Shiva Shahmohamed
- E-mail to Mark Chignell
- E-mail to Keynyn Brysse
- E-mail to Ari Caylakyan
- E-mail to Simon Rowland
- E-mail to Shane D'Costa, Simon Rowland, Bryan, Lara
- E-mail to Anna Malandrino
- E-mail to Sunir Shah
- E-mail to Calen Martin D. Legaspi
- E-mail to Dean Michael Berris
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