Headlines for Tuesday:
Oh, boy, this will be quite a packed lunch
- 3 clementines
- 3 slices of banana bread
- bowl of eclairs
|A||X||Catch up with LinkedIn|
|A||X||Catch up with Blogcentral|
|A||X||Learn about remote usability test options|
|B||X||Follow up with DHL|
|A||X||Back up code|
|A||X||Fix department name bug|
|A||X||Ask about lighttpd|
|B||X||Update my finances|
|A||C||Sync my address book with LinkedIn|
|A||X||Sign up for a proper webhost that will allow me to host multiple domains|
|A||X||Go to IBM|
I was thinking about whether to organize my Sunday tea parties along conversational themes, carefully scheduling guests to ensure an amicable mix. But something doesn't feel quite right about that, not for my Sunday tea parties. I want my Sunday teas to be an open drop-in-if-you're-in-the-neighborhood-or-even-make-a-trip-out-just-for-it kind of thing. No need to call. No need to check the Internet to see what my schedule is or think about who the other guests are. Just come and enjoy assorted teas, juices, chocolates, light snacks, and conversations.
I haven't quite figured out what I want that tea time to be, but I think that I'm getting closer to it. This openness presents certain challenges. I don't know how many people will show up, which makes it a good exercise in learning how to scale up or down as needed. A far larger challenge, however, is conversation. Maybe we can treat it as practice in social graces. ;)
I am a geek, and as a geek, I meet mostly other geeks as well. Many geeks--myself included--often have a hard time with small talk, starting conversations with people whom they know little about or with whom they don't have an immediately obvious common interest. This is a pity, and this is something I'd like to work on and help other people practice.
As a host, I get uncomfortable when even one person is feeling left out, or when there are no pauses or questions in the conversation to invite shyer people to contribute.
We might not necessarily connect and become friends with everyone we meet, but we should certainly be able to draw out people who want to converse, and to share a bit of ourselves as well. I feel strongly that the adept conversationalist should be able to relate to both 2-year-olds and 92-year-olds. Diversity reveals deficiencies. If you find yourself unable to talk about anything but computers, you'll know that you need to experience more!
Deep talk is not taboo. You're certainly welcome to enter into a side conversation about the meaning of life. I'd love it if you ended up continuing the conversation over dinner (which I might even join after I wash up) or another get-together. If I can figure out how to set up other focal points, that would be even cooler.
Dropping out of the conversations and playing Scrabble or Boggle would also be fine by me. If I can find a nice set of shadowbox-type shelves, then I might even start collecting geek puzzles. We sometimes need time to recharge socially, after all.
What about a time for deeper conversation or a carefully-chosen mix of guests? If you want a specialized conversation salon where we can discuss, say, really really geeky jokes, then we can organize one - but not during Sunday tea time. Sunday tea is for everyone.
I can improve a few things, though. The layout of a room affects the conversations in it. Right now, the white coffee table is my only focal point, which naturally results in one major conversation. When the weather warms up a bit more, people will be able to stay on the balcony. I need to make more use of the corners of my room, though. Maybe small mats and a few more cushions will give people permission to multithread conversations...
I am so glad I didn't go with chairs, which would have been harder to rearrange.
Hmm. What about a small drop-leaf table mounted on the wall? That would be a fixed focal point. A low table or tray with cushions placed invitingly around it? I might have space for another cluster of four if I move things around and get rid of all the stuff near my walls. Maybe a corner mat would be a flexible way to do it.
I like thinking about how structure affects flow. The structure of the room, the structure of the event... Ah!
Random Emacs symbol: view-hello-file - Command: Display the HELLO file which list up many languages and characters.
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