Category Archives: connecting

Not joining the Rotary Club

Frank Adamo suggested joining the Rotary Club or the Rotaract Club, so
I filled out the online application form for the Rotary Club of

They politely suggested that I check out the Rotaract Club at the
University of Toronto because I’m still young and unaccomplished (that
is, I haven’t yet completed my education and I’m not working
full-time). I wrote them asking if I could attend as a guest anyway,
and they said they don’t allow guests because then there would be no
reason to pay membership. They also pointed out that I probably won’t
be able to afford the rates unless I have a full-time job.

I can’t afford their rates, and I’m not going to make joining them one
of my financial goals. $175 per quarter + $30 per week is a whole lot
of water systems for villages, hot meals for the homeless, books for
kids… I’ll focus on making the most of Toastmasters (I’d like to
participate at higher levels). I’m also looking for a foundation that
helps the homeless get back on track. Does anyone have a favorite
Toronto-based charity that does that kind of work?

Ryze: business networking with meetups

If you’re interested in business networking, Ryze is worth checking out.
A relative newcomer, it doesn’t have the large networks or polished interface of LinkedIn. What it lacks there, though, it makes up for in terms of local presence. Ryze makes it easy to find and meet up with people in the same city, with RSVP-handling for events.

The basic account’s pretty limited, though. You can’t contact anyone beyond two degrees, which isn’t really that bad because you can (and should!) develop links with people along the way. You can’t create your own network, so no Orkut-like groups here. There seems to be a limit on how many times people can contact you. And just what does it mean to “see who wants to network with you”?

On the plus side, you can customize your profile page to an insane extent. That’s cool. There’s also more of a social aspect to it, with people indicating their interests, haves and wants.

Something to watch because of the meetups, but my primary network’s still going to be LinkedIn.

Deciding not to Ryze to the occasion

I wandered all the way over to 240 King Street E for the
Ryze business networking event. I figured
that it was worth a shot. Besides, Andrew Plumb likes Ryze enough to
pay for it, so it can’t be all that bad.

I ran for cover just as big raindrops started splattering on the
sidewalk. The guy at the door directed me to the party upstairs, where
I found three people sipping drinks at the bar and having a lively
conversation about different cultures—and in particular, the
late-night habits of people in Lisbon. =) I warmed up to them right
away because one of them was talking about his sabbatical—ah, another
person wandering outside the ivory tower! So I ordered a softdrink and
settled in.

We got around to introductions maybe five minutes into the
conversation. They asked me what I did, and I told them I’m taking
HCI. Some confusion ensued. They asked me what department that’s
under. Even more confusion. Turned out it was a small party for people
from George Brown College. Heh. I couldn’t blame the guy who gave me
directions at the door—I looked like a student!

I eventually found the Ryze get-together. The organizer was already
there. She pointed out a thick roll of green tickets and described the
evening as a business networking event. I nodded—I’d figured out that
much from the website—and then she wrapped up with “…and that’ll be
around $20.”

Now _that_ I didn’t see on the website.

I did some very quick calculations in my head. Even if the thing
included dinner, I didn’t feel that $20 was worth cold-call
conversations in a crowded bar.

I thanked the organizer politely and chit-chatted with the other
early-birds there about social networks. I wanted to get a sense of
people’s energy levels. You know how there are some people who can
make you instantly feel that you know them and they care about you?
Well, I didn’t really get that off the people there. They were more
along the lines of “Hmm, that’s interesting. <change topic>”

It was a toss-up that evening between Ryze and the crochet group at
Graduate House. The crochet group won. (Okay, there was also meeting
up with Calum, but it’s a pity that that invite came a bit late…)

I took one last, quick look at the four people standing around the
tickets, drained my 7-up, and headed back to the dorm.

Transit fare going there: $ 2.50
Softdrink: $2.50
Transit fare coming back: $ 2.50
Realizing that I’m not into networking for networking’s sake: … =)

Networking with Moleskines

I’m somewhat notorious for writing notes during conversations. I keep ‘minutes’ in a little black book that I always carry with me. I can’t help it! I love learning from people, and I don’t trust my memory. I want to be able to get back in touch with people so that I can continue interesting conversations, and I want to be able to introduce people to other interesting people so that I can listen in on _their_ conversations and learn even more. =)

My Moleskine notebook is the perfect size for my conversation notes.
The back flap is great for storing business cards and index cards.
I’ve numbered every other page, which makes it easy to keep an index
at the back of page numbers and contents. This was really handy when I
used my Moleskine to keep lists of random things. Now that I’m using
it for more chronological notes, I don’t need to update the index that

I start the day by writing the date. Throughout the day, I scribble
down names of people I talked to and what I talked to them about. If I
need to follow up with someone, I add a star and a note about what to
say. Action items also get stars – anything I need to do or write. =)

I love having a record of the conversations I’ve had and the people
I’ve met. I hate just having names and contact information in my
address book. I’d rather have stories and vivid memories of people!
This also forces me to listen better and interact more deeply with
people, because I have to be able to write down at least one
interesting thing about them. =)

This also allows me to keep a richer history of the people I’ve met. I
used to keep detailed notes on the people I met through e-mail and
IRC, writing down little tidbits that showed up on my screen whenever
they e-mailed me or chatted with me. For example, one of my entries
starts: “Left-handed, red-headed, uses a kinesis keyboard with a
Dvorak layout, into unicycles…” Bringing my computer out and adding
notes to people’s records while I’m talking to them is really awkward,
though. (Believe me, I’ve tried!) I write notes in my Moleskine
instead, adding them to my computer when I get the chance.

I can add hyperlinks on paper by flipping back to the last time I
mentioned a person, adding an arrow and a note to the current page,
and doing the same to link the current entry back to the previous one.
For example, when I met Himy at the Pedestrian Sunday in Kensington
Market, I knew that I had written his e-mail address down before, and
I trusted that my Moleskine would have it. That allowed me to focus on
our conversation and scribble down things like “giant outstallation
art” and “Toronto psychogeography”.

When I reviewed my notes, I linked the entries together. I met him at
the Mesh afterparty, and it was easy to go back and find his e-mail
address (on page 93!). I then added a forward-link to p118 and a
backward-link from p118 to p93, remembering in the process more
details of our previous conversation. Then I added the data to my
contacts. (Still not complete, but growing bit by bit…)

Good stuff. Very good stuff.

Next step: I’m planning to make a cover for my Moleskine so that I can
keep my fountain pen with it all the time. That way, I’ll always know
where both of them are. I might also keep a tiny, cheap mechanical
pencil with my Moleskine so that I can sketch things. I can also lend
the pencil to people who need something for writing.

Once I finish this notebook (only 68 pages to go!), I’ll try using one
of the thinner notebooks with detachable pages. That would be more
elegant than carrying around a lot of index cards. I’ve gotten used to
being able to just strap random stuff into the notebook, though, so
we’ll see how that works out. Or maybe I should just print more
business cards and put a lot in the back pocket of my notebook…

I’m still figuring out a good way to make incomplete followups jump
out at me. If I was more diligent about margins, I could use circles
in the left margin to indicate the need for a followup. I could then
shade the circle when I’ve followed up with that person.

This is also great when I’m doing something like Greg Narain’s
Stranger-a-Day project. I still haven’t quite gotten the courage to
approach random people and say hi to them, but I’m working my way up
from being able to converse with practically anyone. =) I’ll get there soon!

I’m still bad at following up with people immediately after events. I
need to put aside more time after get-togethers to do that.

I’d love to have a Blackberry so that I can ping people while walking
on my way to class or taking the train to work. Nothing really major,
just quick thinking-of-you things. As small as my laptop is, it’s just
not as convenient as my Moleskine or my cellphone, and wireless
internet isn’t available everywhere. But I can’t send e-mail from my
cellphone, much less my Moleskine. Oh well. I’d like to plan a career
that’ll make something like that cost-effective. =)

Would a PDA be better for this kind of notetaking? I like not having
to look at the paper while I’m writing. I can usually read my
handwriting afterwards. I can use digital ink, I guess, but it doesn’t
quite feel the same. Besides, my fountain pen gets oohs and aahs. ;)
(Yes, I’m silly!) Sure, I have to copy information out again, but that
reinforces the links. (And I don’t have to worry about battery

Still, I’ll try firing up my iPaq again and seeing if that works for
me. Could it be any better than my beloved Moleskine, my little black
book? =) I want to meet more people and learn more things and make
more connections between others. My Moleskine’s a terrific tool for
the job, and I love how it feels, too: cream paper, red-black ink…
It makes me happy, and it makes getting to know people so much fun. =)


Said Bill of Praxis 101:

Sacha, found your nice little post on Moleskine practice via Stowe Boyd.

I use many of the same practices, but I really like your idea for
linking. I’ve done it in a more haphazard way.

Re action items: my practice is to mark actions with an underscore
before them. Like this:

_____ Do this

Then I just put an “X” in the box when it’s done, or a check mark if
partly done. And I cross it out completely when I choose to not do it.

I also carry blank index cards with me at all times. Sometimes these end
up being copied or pasted into my notebook.

I’m not worried about the indexing problem, but I have lost track of a
few references and good ideas.

Thanks again for the practice description.



Said Jason Evans:

I think you will be disappointed if you try to use an electronic notetaking method over paper. You really already made the argument against the switch yourself. Paper and pen are less distracting, never run out of power, and simpler to use for notes like you are trying to do. You want the flexibility to jot a networking note anywhere, anytime, very quickly at the time it is in your brain. I’ve been through various handheld computers trying to do what you’re describing, and I was surprised how much I fell in love with my Hispter PDA that I made from a stack of notecards. I’ve since converted my Hipster cards into pages in my Moleskine pocket edition and it goes with me everywhere. For someone like you, your Moleskine won’t be the only place you keep your ideas and you’ll often need other resources to take action (like sending and email), but the ease of use of paper and a nice pen (mine’s a Fischer Bullet Space Pen) means you’re more likely to capture the idea/conversation/contact in the first place. Like you said, copying it to another resource (an online to do list, an email server, etc.) reinforces the item in your head and can be done when you have more time. Use your iPaq for databases (I’m a physician and I keep a medication database on my Palm that is updated via the Web when I HotSync), highly detailed contact info, and maybe your calendar. Program your email address into your cell phone and send yourself short SMS reminders about other emails (“lynn meeting” to remind yourself to email lynn about that meeting you wanted to schedule the next time you sit in front of your email). Keep the Moleskine.

Welcome to the folks! By the way, I’m into social
computing (blogs, wikis, social bookmarking, etc.) and I want to learn
more about technology evangelism. Check out my about:me. =)

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DemoCamp afterparty

I couldn’t make it to DemoCamp proper, but I caught the
afterparty at Molly Bloom’s. I checked all the tables for people I’d
been meaning to ping and say hi to, but I was just starving, so I
spent far too much time waiting for food and then gulping it down.
Next time, I should bring along a little snack or some dried mangoes
so that I can get my energy fix and postpone dinner.

Lots of interesting conversations, though, and lots of role models.
I’ll try to follow up with them over the next few days. I brought my
little black book, of course, and it was fun seeing everyone else with
Moleskines. (They’re like Macs among the geek crowd, only more
portable. ;) )

Note to self: either learn shorthand or learn how to write more

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Interesting people, interesting conversations

It is my firm belief that if I mash interesting people together,
they’ll most probably have interesting conversations – and if I’m
around to hear those conversations, even better.

I went to IBM, and that turned out to be perfect timing. Laurie
Dillon, Pranam Kolari and Ian Chan all pinged me for lunch. I thought
they should definitely meet each other, so we all met up for lunch at
12 and had a wonderful conversation about IBM intranet goodness and
blogging visualizations. =) That was tons of fun.

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