Sacha Chua - tag - conflict Emacs, sketches, and life https://sachachua.com/blog/tag/conflict/feed/atom/index.xml 11ty 2018-07-17T16:58:15Z Stalling 2018-07-17T20:58:15Z 2018-07-17T16:58:15Z https://sachachua.com/blog/?p=29274 I've been having a bit of a challenge around A- stalling, whether she's on the toilet or we're getting ready to brush teeth. She wants to do things first (“First A-, and then Mama.”), but then takes forever (“I have a hard time”) or resists starting (“I don't want to brush my teeth.”). I even got tempted to head down the road of counting down.

Fortunately, Janet Lansbury described a much better approach to dealing with that kind of boundary-testing. If I can observe A- more closely and get the hang of providing confident momentum when she just needs a liiittle more help, that could smooth things over. (“It looks like you might need a little help. Would you like me to put toothpaste on for you, or hold your hand as you brush?”) I'm not entirely clear what to do about the toilet situation aside from offering hugs and a footstool to brace against, but if I manage my own needs more proactively, I can be more patient with her.

Time to read Janet Lansbury's books and go through her archive…

You can e-mail me at sacha@sachachua.com.

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