6098 comments
2357 subscribers
6259 on Twitter
Subscribe! Feed reader E-mail

Book: Choose to be happily married: How everyday decisions can lead to lasting love

Bonnie Jacobson, PhD., with Alexia Paul
2010 Adams Media, Avon, Massachusetts
ISBN 13: 978-1-60550-625-8

The book consists of short chapters that explore common conflicts and positive approaches in committed relationships. Each chapter includes one or two case studies, ways to recognize the conflict, and tips for resolving the conflict. This book is a good read for couples who are beginning to find themselves ensnared in repeating conflict patterns because they can identify and get tips for their situation. Couples who are starting out may also find it useful as a way to recognize potential conflicts before they become established.

  • Flexibility

    Responsive Reactive
    Good judgment Critical judgment
    Expressing your true self Conforming to a role
    Autonomy Isolation
    Surrender Submission
    Establishing space Neglect
    Patience Passivity
    Benign boundaries Emotional tyranny
    Awareness of limits Emotional recklessness
    Embracing change Preserving the status quo
  • Communication

    Taking responsibility Blame
    Needs Wants
    Detach Withdraw
    Speaking up Silence
    Giving the benefit of the doubt Making assumptions
    Intimate listening Hearing
    Influence Control
    Constructive criticism Destructive criticism
  • Personal power

    Deciding Craving
    Fighting fair Fighting unfair
    Support Protection
    Forgiving Forgetting
    Good selfish Bad selfish
    Family loyalty Self-interest
    Joy Happiness
Short URL: http://sachachua.com/blog/p/21843

On This Day...

  • 2012: Business experience report: Filing taxes! — I filed my corporate taxes and HST today, well ahead of the deadlines. The money will earn negligible interest in [...]
  • 2011: Planning an Emacs-based personal wiki – Org? Muse? Hmm… — I miss my Planner wiki! I think it’s time to organize things into a personal wiki again. Blogs are great [...]
  • 2009: Book: Closing the Innovation Gap —   The best talent embodies the five core values and has the right combination of aptitude, skill, judgment, passion, and drive. [...]
  • 2008: Learning languages — My recent trip to Tel Aviv was a good reason to learn a little Hebrew. I listened to the Hebrew [...]
  • 2008: Weekly review: Week ending Nov 2, 2008 — This week was half travel, half catching up. I flew to Tel Aviv for a customer workshop at which I [...]
  • 2006: Learning a foreign language — Another idea for the activity matrix: learning a foreign language. Japanese? Spanish? Maybe Spanish – I know a few people who can [...]
  • 2006: Tweaked blog design — I tweaked my blog design slightly, using a real-life photo instead of my icon and taking a few things off my [...]
  • 2006: In other news… — I’m back on the wagon of tracking every expense. There’s a certain satisfaction in knowing that every cent is accounted for. [...]
  • 2006: Hack Night — A few days ago, I posted a matrix of great ways to spend time. Simon liked the idea, so last night, we [...]
  • 2006: Contact report — I started tracking e-mail sent on 2006.09.01 with a nifty piece of Emacs Lisp code I wrote just for the purpose. Now [...]
  • 2006: Microsoft evangelism – tempting! — I had hot chocolate and a terrific conversation with John Oxley, director of community evangelism at Microsoft Canada. He told me about [...]
  • 2005: More about teaching — Teaching is the most humbling of experiences. There is nothing like standing there in front of the students and finding yourself [...]
  • 2005: ACM controversy — For the most part, Ateneo handled their first ACM Intercollegiate Programming Competition wonderfully. But there was one thing that perhaps could have [...]
  • 2003: Oooh, Perl is cool — perl -e 'print "*" x 80 . "\n"' I didn’t know about x number…
  • 2003: Intrams and Pisay Curriculum — This rant’s from Julius B. Legaspi III: Thank you for those who sent their comments so far. Rest assured I will try [...]
  • 2001: Playing with planner (linux, emacs) — Today’s been a busy day. I don’t suppose I can get planner to nicely work with all the rest of [...]

Get the highlights as a PDF!

Stories from my Twenties: Highlights from a Decade of Blogging

Free sample!