2018-09-17 Emacs news

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Weekly review: Week ending September 14, 2018

Things are starting to feel a little normal again. We’ve been going to the EarlyON learning centre, and A- likes playing with the toys and kids there. I’ve been prioritizing sleep and joining A- for afternoon naps. I managed to do a tiny bit of consulting by sneaking it in whenever I woke up before A- did, although there are still quite a few things on my list. A- still often has tantrums when resisting bedtime or when I refuse to nurse, but W- can usually calm her down. We’ve gotten back into the rhythm of planning the week’s meals and preparing them during the weekend. The mini-vacuum is back, too, so it’s a little easier cleaning the house. I started working on another little project, so we’ll see how that goes.

  • Gross motor
    • A- and I had lots of fun chasing each other around her tower in the kitchen.
    • We’ve been going to a nearby EarlyON centre because A- loves their riding toys. Today she learned how to pedal a tricycle. I helped her figure out how to push with one foot and then the other, lifting the foot she’s not pushing with so that she doesn’t get confused. She’s really looking forward to getting her own pedal bike after she can coast well on her balance bike! (5.1.5 Riding Toys)
  • Language
    • For some reason, A- has been using the excuse “I’m too young to read / fold laundry / …”.
    • A- dramatically collapsed on the floor, saying, “I fall on the harsh floor.” W- and I looked at each other and said, “Harsh?” We laughed at the playful drama.
    • A- took some of the magnetic tiles to a corner away from the other kids, saying she wanted a “quiet area.” (2.2 Self-regulation)
    • A- liked substituting ideas in books. LIttle Excavator became Big Excavator, and Never Follow a Dinosaur became Never Follow an Excavator. She corrected us whenever we used the original words from the books. (4. Cognition)
  • Self-care and independence
    • We went to the ocularist for a checkup. A- was pretty anxious, and often reminded herself about the toy box. The ocularist said she’ll get a new conformer in November. In the meantime, the ocularist polished her conformer, and A- picked a box of crayons from the toy box.
  • Sleep
    • Much resistance to bedtime until I used my stern voice, after which she settled down after 8h of awake time and about 5m additional fussing. She had a big tantrum earlier because of weaning, but W- helped her settle down by pretending to make muffins.
    • A- had a big tantrum resisting bedtime because she wanted a bath. W- calmed her down after lots of snuggling.
  • Social
    • A- played with J- in A-‘s room, shooing other people away by saying, “Private!”
    • A- had a small owie and insisted on W- for comfort. “Mama’s kisses don’t work. Daddy’s kisses do.”
    • We went to the EarlyON centre in a nearby school. A- enjoyed playing with the toys inside and outside the centre. Unlike many centres, it has a nice outdoor space, and the facilitator has done a good job of focusing on loose parts and natural materials.
    • We spent all day at the EarlyON centre. A- liked riding on the riding toys, pushing the dryer drum around, painting, and playing with magnetic tiles.
    • After music class, we went to the EarlyON centre. A- enjoyed listening to the story and playing with riding toys. We spent the afternoon at the park playing with Melissa and H-, whom we met at the EarlyON centre.
    • A- enjoyed music class, walking around to music and playing shakers and bells. She wanted to be carried about half the time. At the end of the class, she gave the teacher a hug.
  • World
    • W- went for a haircut, so A- and I came along and watched the hairstylist work.
  • Us
    • We roasted a duck, marinated chicken adobo, and also prepared pork chops. Yum yum yum.
    • I checked out a nearby daycare. A- enjoyed playing with their toys, but the approach was a bit more academic-focused and less play-based, so we decided to continue keeping A- at home.

Blog posts

Time

Category The other week Last week Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
A- 30.8 40.8 10.0 68.5 16.7
Sleep 35.1 39.0 3.9 65.5 6.6
Personal 12.9 11.3 -1.6 19.0 -2.7
Unpaid work 11.7 6.8 -4.9 11.4 -8.2
Discretionary – Productive 2.4 1.1 -1.3 1.8 -2.2
Business 1.4 0.8 -0.6 1.3 -1.0
Discretionary – Play 1.6 0.3 -1.3 0.5 -2.1
Discretionary – Social 1.4 0.0 -1.4 0.0 -2.4
Discretionary – Family 2.8 0.0 -2.8 0.0 -4.6

Monthly review: August 2018

  • Field trip
    • We went to the Horse Palace and caught the show.
  • Gross motor
    • A- got the hang of doing forward rolls, wheelbarrow exercises, and ladder exercises.
    • Lots of balance bike practice. Still taking short strides, but starting to be okay with slopes.
  • Fine motor
    • Interested in drawing letters, and can sometimes make pretty good approximations.
  • Sensory
    • Lots of wading in wading pools and enjoying summer in the playground.
  • Language
    • A- bruised her toe the day before. Right after she woke up, she said, “I don’t want to go to the hospital. I will try not to go to the hospital.”
    • “We can do kids’ yoga later.” “I want to do it now.” “You’re impatient.” “I wait patiently.”
    • “I don’t like Mama’s friends. I like my own friends. I like E-.”
    • “I don’t know that word. The water word,” A- said, referring to the word “gulp” from a book we had read earlier that afternoon.
    • Talking about thoughts: “I thought about the cart.”
    • I said, “I got you.” A- said, “We both got each other.”
  • Self-care and independence
    • A- practised separation by going up and down the stairs several times, saying “I will come right back downstairs just like I promised to.” She also pretended to go to school and come back, and to go to work and come back.
    • A- went upstairs to get her own clothes all by herself. She came down with a shirt and two pairs of pants. Turned out she wanted to wear one pair of pants as a hat.
    • At A-‘s 30-month checkup, she measured 88 cm and 10.3 kg.
    • A- was crawling around when she stumbled and cut her lip. She didn’t ask to nurse, although she was happy to do so when I offered.
    • A- mostly sat still for the ultrasound exam. The cardiologist said that the VSD is pretty insignificant now, although there’s a slight leak in her aortic valve and the muscle bundle continues to grow slowly. We’ll follow up next year.
  • Emotion
    • A- is definitely not a big fan of weaning.
    • A- stomped down the hallway, hangry tantrum in full swing. She stopped at the end of the tape on the floor and did a few squats just like the ladder exercise that W- taught her, and then resumed her tantrum.
  • Household
    • A- was very interested in mending, and wanted to put tape over the holes I made in a piece of paper.
    • I was feeding Neko some wet cat food. I noticed I had reached the end of the can, so I said to myself, “I’m going to need another one of these.” As I scraped the last of the cat food into a bowl, A- fetched another can of cat food and gave it to me, all without being asked.
  • Social
    • A- had fun hiding something behind her back and showing one empty hand, then holding it with the other hand and showing the first hand empty.
    • We went to Sunnyside Beach with Jen and E-.
    • We had dimsum with W-‘s family.
    • I was exhausted. While I cat-napped, A- read me a story, and then she wiped my face with a damp washcloth.
    • A- had fun playing a shushing game. She asked me to make a loud noise, and then put a finger to her lips and hushed me.
  • Pretend
    • Multiple levels of indirection! A- pretended to be S- pretending to be a cat, labeling herself as “S- cat” while eating pretend wet food.
    • A- wanted to copy the way the Cat in the Hat held his hands.
    • A- pretended to play a tug-of-war with an imaginary carrot, roleplaying the scene from “Warning! Do Not Touch!”.
    • A- reenacted scenes from the Curious George book. She liked pretending to be caught in a hat or blown away with balloons. She also liked pretending to go to the zoo and distribute balloons.
    • A- did the motions and sounds that she remembered from watching the video of her sticking her tongue out when she was an infant. It’s fun watching her reenact things with surprising attention to detail.
    • We’re slowly moving away from plastic toys, so we made a cardboard kitchen for A-. She had fun cooking an egg on the stovetop and baking a pizza in the oven.
    • A- asked for a pretend microwave. I glued white paper on a cereal box, drew the microwave interface, and cut the door open.
    • I made a cardboard point-of-sale terminal with a coin drawer, a scale, and a slot for pulling out a receipt. A- liked it very much.
    • A- played pretend ultrasound quite a few times, raiding the sticker bin after each exam. She also kept revisiting dental surgery in our drawings and stories.
    • A- liked pushing books through a slot in the coffee table legs, pretending to return them to the library. She also pretended to request one of her favourite books from a librarian.
  • Cognition
    • “I want to nurse.” “Remember, we may need to stop nursing soon.” “I want Mama to buy me a pacifier.”
    • We played the Opposites game.
  • Kaizen
    • W- fixed his glasses and I started patching my carrier.
    • We were able to go on a family bike trip, yay! W- and I biked up to Walmart, and I brought A- in the trailer.
    • W- got our land line converted to a dry loop for DSL. I should probably memorize my other number for messages.
    • I updated my ledger to reflect my conversion of many of my TD e-series fund units to ETFs.
  • Us
    • We met up with Linda Ristevski for a library tour.
    • I met up with Curtis and his family at Sick Kids.
    • David Ing dropped by since he was biking through our neighbourhood.
    • I realized I was all done with nursing.

Blog posts

Sketches

Time

Category Previous month % This month % Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
Unpaid work 4.4 7.3 2.9 12.3 4.9
Personal 5.9 8.3 2.4 13.9 4.0
Discretionary – Social 1.6 2.3 0.7 3.9 1.2
Discretionary – Productive 2.8 3.4 0.7 5.8 1.1
Discretionary – Family 0.9 1.6 0.7 2.6 1.1
Discretionary – Play 0.2 0.3 0.0 0.5 0.1
Business 1.7 0.7 -1.0 1.2 -1.7
Sleep 35.1 33.0 -2.1 55.5 -3.5
A- 47.1 43.0 -4.1 72.2 -6.9

A- switched over to strongly preferring W- because I’m weaning her, so he handled more childcare. I worked less because I needed more sleep and patience to help with the disruption to A-‘s routines. Next month: Music classes, other plans

Weekly review: Week ending September 7, 2018

  • Gross motor
    • A- went up the slide many times. She also slid down the big slides by herself. She liked swinging in the big kid swing, pumping her legs back and forth.
    • A- walked along the ropes of the climbing structure, holding the ropes and my hand for balance.
    • A- liked running up the hill and coming back for a hug whenever I blew the whistle. Sometimes she even ran a little out of sight. She also enjoyed being chased and picked up.
    • A- jumped forward from the pillow and landed on her hands on the bed several times. She loved pouncing.
  • Fine motor
    • A- asked me to make playdough fruits so that she could cut them.
  • Sensory
    • We made up for the indoor days this week with time outside: lots of walks, some reading outside, and plenty of playground time.
  • Language
    • I’ve been telling A- the truth: I’m done with nursing. This morning, she woke up saying, “I’m not done! I’m not done!”
    • A- had fun with opposites, and her pairings amused all of us. She answered us when we asked her what was the opposite of something (“What’s the opposite of light?” “Dark!”) and also posed her own questions. (“What’s the opposite of drink?” “What?” “Stop drinking!”). According to A-, the opposite of playground is JFRC (the drop-in centre), and the opposite of JFRC is library (because the JFRC is in the basement and the library is upstairs). The opposite of put away is play, and the opposite of cat is kitten.
    • Talking about our cats: “Luke is patient. Luke is not scratchy.”
    • A- asked me to read “What Does the Fox Say?” six times in a row. She liked repeating the made-up sounds from the book/song.
    • A- said she did not like my pointy shirt (shirts with collars), so I changed into something else.
  • Self-care and independence
    • A- cut up cherries with a butter knife.
  • Eating
    • A- really liked the carrots that I cut into flower shapes.
    • A- really liked the pesto Jen made using penne pasta. She doesn’t like fusilli at the moment, so maybe we’ll try penne at home.
  • Sleep
    • A- kept resisting sleep, but was probably just cold. Eventually I thought of suggesting she wear pajamas. She fussed a little more, and then curled up with me and slept.
    • A- was in the carrier. I suggested that she take a nap, and after a lot of talking, she eventually did.
  • Social
    • We visited Morgan, Cathy, and M-. A- loved playing with marbles and bubbles, and she enjoyed eating the duck wrap.
    • A- reminded me to look both ways when crossing the street, and insisted that I do it again whenever I forgot.
    • A- liked riding in the wagon with E-.
    • A- did not want me to come in for bedtime reading. W- read to her instead.
  • Pretend
    • A- pretended to be Yaya Irene. She cleaned her play area, and then put the chairs upside down on top of the table and pretended to sweep under the table.
    • A- played dentist with Lullaby Lamb as her patient. She also liked being the patient with W- as the dentist chair.
  • Kaizen
    • After I misplaced and found my library card, I decided to finally photocopy the barcode and stick it on my phone case. The library scanner read it fine. Hooray!
  • Us
    • I woke up early and sewed a pair of shorts for myself!
    • I sewed matching shorts for A- too. She liked wearing the same kind of clothes that I was wearing.
    • I hung out with Eric Boyd and chatted about delegation.

Blog posts

Time

Category The other week Last week Diff h/wk Diff h/wk
Sleep 34.3 35.1 0.7 58.9 1.3
A- 43.2 30.8 -12.4 51.8 -20.9
Personal 9.4 12.9 3.5 21.7 5.8
Unpaid work 6.3 11.7 5.4 19.6 9.1
Discretionary – Family 3.0 2.8 -0.2 4.6 -0.3
Discretionary – Productive 1.9 2.4 0.5 4.1 0.9
Discretionary – Play 0.6 1.6 0.9 2.6 1.5
Discretionary – Social 0.3 1.4 1.1 2.4 1.9
Business 1.0 1.4 0.4 2.3 0.7

I managed to do a little consulting when Kathryn Everest came over so that I could help her with Tableau. Also, more time cooking this week, but a bit of negative productivity when I made a mistake that wasted the chicken and vegetables I was cooking. Boo. More practice! Also, I got a bit better at tracking walks separately from childcare, and I managed to have two afternoon naps along with A-.

Next week: ocularist, music classes.

2018-09-03 Emacs news

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Weaning

A- hates weaning. She’s desperate to reconnect. I wish I had more patience or cleverness for a gentler approach, but I’m all done with nursing, so we’ve gone cold-turkey.

All I can do is to accept her rages and pleas, snuggle her close when she wants (“Tighter!” she says), give her space when she wants (“That’s my body!”), offer milk and food and hugs, and not take her rejection personally. (“I like Daddy more than Mama!” “That’s okay with me.”)

I am okay with her being upset. I’m okay with giving her an outlet for her feelings, and being there for her until anger melts into sadness, or through the cycles of falling asleep crying and waking up screaming.

I’m also okay with taking care of myself (bathroom breaks, cat-naps) so that I can take care of her. W- is awesome.

Thank goodness for the mercurial moods of toddlers. It’s hard to go from calm to angry tantrum in the space of a few minutes, but fortunately she also sometimes switches out of a tantrum, so I know she’s okay.

It’s also mind-boggling to know that as much as she resists, she says she’d still rather spend time with me than with a babysitter, even when I’m low-energy. Even in the middle of a tantrum, she gestures for me to lie down too and snuggle her closer. Even though she says she doesn’t want me to say no or to set limits, she also says she wants me.

Of course, once W- is home, she’s all about him. (“Private time, Mama! Please go somewhere else.”) That’s cool too.

While we’re working on this, everything else is on hold. I need as much sleep and space as I can that I can give her as much patience and support as she needs. I misjudged it one night, staying up for an hour of consulting and an hour of planning. Four hours later, she woke up and refused to settle. The next night, I was so exhausted that I cried, and she was even more distressed by my tears. W- woke up again, calmed her down simply by taking her out of the room, and let me have a much-appreciated start on sleep.

She’s slowly coming around. She still asks, but she doesn’t rage as much now. I can acknowledge that she wants to nurse, comfort her, and offer something else. Helping her sleep is still a challenge, but at least she settles back down when she wakes up in the middle of the night. She wakes up grumpy and wanting to nurse, but the mood passes by breakfast.

It’s a lot to get through, but we’ll get through this together.