Monthly review: March 2025: going on field trips; shifting from fretting to learning
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March 2025:
decrease fretting, increase experiments, field trips, self-efficacy
- 🔥 campfire
- 🎵 Minecraft & singing
- 🥧 peach pie
- 🍎 apples & marshmallows
- ✏️ doodling
- ⛸️ skating in the wind
- 📰 RSS, thoughts on reading
- 😴 tired kids
- ⏲️ cubing comp
- 🍕 pizza playdate
- 🖨️ creeper 3D print
- 🏝️ quiet day, watched Moana 2
- 🎮 arcade
- 📚 bookstore, meds
- 🎵 music theory
- 🎮 LEGO Incredibles
- 🐒 monkey bars
- 🦷 tooth: UR2
- 👥 playing with the group
- 🧁 Sand cakes with A-
- 🏺 pottery wheel
- 💭 feelings
- 📺 TV
- 🐟 Ripley's Aquarium
- 🚲 bike playdate
- ☕ hot chocolate
- 🧁 chocolate cupcake
- 🥾 trails
- 🌧️ freezing rain
- 📝 homework lap
- 🛒 proud of buying snacks & cereal
That was actually a pretty full month. I liked the little field trips we went on, and the way A+'s been so proud of her growing self-efficacy and her singing, and how we've been getting together with friends, and how we've been enjoying more produce, and how we've been learning… Nice.
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In February, I wrote I wanted to:
- Practise being calmer and more easygoing; get better at thinking in terms of experiments
- Progress!
- Take A+ on more informal field trips: Royal Ontario Museum, pottery class
- Didn't make it to the ROM, made it to pottery and other places
- Start digging into the ideas and tasks I've been postponing
- Barely any progress on this; I keep coming up with new ideas!
- Finish the Simply Piano course and start working on sheet music for the songs A+ wants to sing
- I managed to finish the beginner course and now I'm mid-way through the intermediate ones
- Practise singing scales while waiting for A+ to catch up with Simply Sing
- She caught up and went beyond me, yay! I'm still definitely off-key, but we can sing enough to have fun
- Automate the BigBlueButton setup a bit more so that I don't forget about meetups
- … forgot to check on my automation, but was able to scramble things together in time for a meetup
The weather's starting to warm up. Skating season is pretty much over, but now we're moving into biking season and picnic season, so that's all good. We had a couple of outdoor playdates and we hosted one of her friends for backyard pizza-making. A+'s been biking more, too. Hooray!
I continue to work on fretting less about A+'s schoolwork. Creativity and playfulness tend to work better for her anyway. For example, she tends to respond well if I invite her to do the homework on my lap, or if I challenge her to dictate her math answers in Chinese, or if I ask her to answer while she's upside down. Scheduling my fretting for one day a week seems to help me not worry too much the rest of the time. On Saturdays, I make a checklist of work that still remains, but I'm not terribly attached to whether it all gets done that day. I find it easier to back off when I remind myself of the long-term perspectives:
- I want her to figure out how to do things even without me pushing.
- Failure is data. Early failure is useful, too. It's good to try things out while the stakes are low.
- It might not be a problem. Even if it's a problem, it might not be her problem.
- School is a small part of the picture, and grades just provide feedback on whether A+ has demonstrated the skills they're looking for in a way that they can evaluate. Some things are easier if you do well in school, but there are many other paths.
- This is her experiment, not mine.
- Also, learning how to let her try things out for herself will help me even more when she becomes a teenager, so it's good for me to learn while the stakes are low too
An easy way to distract myself from fretting by focusing on the things I want to learn and do. I've added piano practice to my daily routine, which is an interesting way to check on how distractible my mind is. There's also writing, coding, tidying up around the house… Plenty of things to keep me busy.
I've been going for more walks, too. Finally started tromping around the paths in the park. I usually clip my lapel mic on for those walks, since they're a good opportunity to braindump. I'm definitely not as coherent as Prot, but maybe with practice, I'll get the hang of exploring my thoughts in a linear way. One of the nice things about thinking out loud this way is realizing quite quickly where the limits of my thoughts are, where I trail off into vagueness or tangled words.
I like to draw as a way to help me untangle my thoughts. I enjoyed drawing more this month, including some fun experiments with drawing feelings. I ordered a screen protector and a pencil grip from Paperlike. With that, I think I'm fairly comfortable drawing on the iPad now. My SuperNote A5X has been a bit neglected, but there's been a system update that added stickers, so that might be fun to check out. Drawing is one of the types of homework that A+ regularly procrastinates, but she responds better if I draw along with her. It's great. I get a weekly source of drawing prompts thanks to Grade 3 structured literary analysis homework. I haven't been following drawing tutorials as much these days. Maybe that's something that might be fun to pick up again.
It's getting easier and easier to talk myself down from fretting as I watch A+ enjoy the growth in her self-efficacy. She can do so many more things for herself now. She figured out how to swing across the rotating monkey bars that she couldn't reach before, and connected the idea of momentum to homework. She was proud of getting to level 7 in the Simply Sing app, and of her 6+-week streak. She experimented with different story ideas. She hiked through freezing rain with her nature club. She even proudly chose and bought herself some groceries.
A+ asked for more field trips, so I tried to plan at least one interesting activity a week, sometimes pulling her out of virtual school after afternoon recess. It worked out really well, I think. We were able to enjoy the sunshine, spend time exploring the world around us. QUick notes:
- cubing comp (A+ did 2x2, 3x3, and Pyraminx): A+'s been going to an online cubing club, so she's been practising on and off, but her current hyperfocus is singing instead of cubing. Still, she was happy with how she did, and she enjoyed volunteering as a judge. This was a bit of a last-minute registration for us, so I've added a TODO to check for upcoming competitions at the start of the year.
- a public library with 3D printers: A+ wanted to try printing a model that she made at the library's Tinkercad workshop. She also wanted to print a cube stand. Both worked out pretty well. It was a nice bike trip to the Fort York library. A+ hasn't come up with more print ideas yet and neither have I, but it's nice to know that the resources are available.
- a pottery wheel lesson: she's interested in more pottery wheel practice and also a painting workshop. She's not interested in hand-building yet and she still needs my help with the wheel. Could be fun to explore together.
- Ripley's Aquarium: she enjoyed petting the stingrays and looking at the sharks. I forgot to take advantage of the Presto discount, whoops! Anyway, I'll see when A+ wants to go again. If I think we'll be there frequently, then we can get a membership.
- The homeschoolers' playgroup: It was nice to reconnect with friends at the park now that they're coming out of hibernation.
A+'s a little behind on schoolwork, but I think that's more of a matter of motivation rather than knowledge, and we'll be able to catch up. I'm looking forward to exploring more things next month and seeing what we can get away with.
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Time
Category | Previous month % | This month % | Diff % | h/wk | Diff h/wk |
---|---|---|---|---|---|
Discretionary - Productive | 11.2 | 17.4 | 6.2 | 32.3 | 10.5 |
Personal | 7.4 | 10.9 | 3.5 | 20.3 | 5.9 |
Discretionary - Play | 0.2 | 0.9 | 0.7 | 1.7 | 1.2 |
Unpaid work | 3.2 | 3.8 | 0.6 | 7.0 | 1.0 |
Discretionary - Social | 0.0 | 0.0 | 0.0 | 0.0 | 0.0 |
Discretionary - Family | 0.1 | 0.1 | -0.0 | 0.1 | -0.1 |
Sleep | 33.9 | 33.3 | -0.7 | 61.8 | -1.1 |
Business | 2.4 | 1.0 | -1.3 | 1.9 | -2.2 |
A+ | 41.9 | 32.6 | -9.3 | 60.5 | -15.6 |
Thanks to my resolution to fret less, I'm spending less time on childcare (A+) and more time exploring my own interests (Discretionary - Productive). I've even been doing a little less consulting. It feels good. I'm still around in case she wants help, but now I get to explore things I want to do.
Let's break that discretionary/consulting time down:
Category | Previous month % | This month % | Diff % | h/wk | Diff h/wk |
---|---|---|---|---|---|
Discretionary - Productive - Music | 1.6 | 6.0 | 4.4 | 11.2 | 7.4 |
Discretionary - Productive - Coding | 0.2 | 1.7 | 1.6 | 3.2 | 2.6 |
Discretionary - Productive - Emacs | 1.6 | 2.9 | 1.3 | 5.4 | 2.2 |
Discretionary - Productive - Nonfiction | 0.0 | 0.7 | 0.7 | 1.3 | 1.2 |
Discretionary - Productive - Drawing | 2.9 | 2.2 | -0.7 | 4.2 | -1.2 |
Discretionary - Productive - Writing | 4.5 | 3.8 | -0.7 | 7.0 | -1.2 |
Business | 2.4 | 1.0 | -1.3 | 1.9 | -2.2 |
Ah, yes, mostly music. We have a Yamaha YDP-113 piano which is finally getting played, yay me (and yay W-'s decision to get it about two decades ago). I want to get the hang of at least Simply Sing's intermediate lessons so I can finally play those Disney songs at a consistent tempo, which means A+ will be able to sing instead of having to stop and restart as I stumble on notes. Plus music has a way of gently pointing out when my attention wanders, so there's that. This feels like a reasonably good use of my time.
Ideas for next month
- Get better at enjoying life with A+ and W-
- Keep replacing fretting with snuggles and connection
- Look for more field trip possibilities
- Explore more recipes, especially as more local produce becomes available
- Playdates:
- Popsicles, biking, farmers markets… fun fun fun!
- Gardening:
- Start some seedlings indoors (bitter melon, cherry tomatoes, marigolds, basil; maybe cucumber?)
- Convert the rest of the grass into garden and amend the soil
- Direct-sow lettuce, poppies
- Sewing:
- Might be good to start thinking about sewing more skirts and dresses for A+ and me, and probably new swimwear too.
- Habits:
- Continue with piano, walking/biking, writing, drawing
- Ease into some kind of strength thing? Grip strength might be a good place to start. Maybe I can learn some hand-strengthening exercises I can do next time A+'s doing homework on my lap.